[quote=Allan from Fallbrook]
CAR: Aren’t there emerging statistics to support what you’re saying, in terms of the increasing number of single women choosing to have children not only outside of a marriage, but outside of a long-term committed relationship?

I can’t recall where I read the article, but there appears to be something of a groundswell regarding single women in their 20s and 30s that are opting out of the “nuclear family” option and choosing to intentionally go it alone.

Personally, I have my doubts about both marriage and monogamy and would opine that people should do whatever works best for them and not worry so much about societal conventions. I look at Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn, who, as I understand it, have been together for years and years and are not married.

Then I look at that nightmare involving Tom Cruise and his Cambodian Re-education Camp Parolee wife and their “happy marriage”.[/quote]

Yes, women have been doing this for the very reasons stated above. If anyone wants to see how well that’s turned out, just look at the African-American community with their greater than 75% out-of-wedlock births.

I agree that people should decide for themselves, but everyone has to pay the price for all the welfare kings/queens out there when people decide not to get married, yet conveniently forget to get “fixed” (MALE and female).

Thanks to all the happily married posters (both male and female) for sharing your more positive perspectives on marriage and relationships. 🙂