Just got back from Minnesota for a family trip. Spent some times with my cousins, one inparticular stands out in the regard of this thread.

I am related to the wife. Every Sat she writes a “hunny-do” list, and it is to be done in the order that she wrote it. He is expected to get everything done on the list.

I gagged, as if this grown man (whom I only met once at the wedding) cant plan his own Sat. I said that list would be ripped right infront of her face if my GF tried to do that to me. The response back was “well then he wont be let back in the house”. My response was ‘great, then I wont be paying the morgage either’. The end of that line of thought is obvious. Needless to say non of the women (all of whom I am related to) were happy with me.

I then added “or Id just start writing my own ‘Hunny-do’ lists, to be completed in order.” All my cousins agreed ‘that is fair’, but then added ‘dont tell him that!’ with a smile.

I bring this up cause it speaks to the two problems that cause threads like this to be discussed on a housing blog (huh???)

1) Be careful who you choose. I could never have a relationship with someone like my cousin, no matter how hot she is. It is little different than the repeated complaint that ‘my wife wants a house, NOW!’. (gotta tie this into housing somehow) If you dont like to bend over, dont be with someone who likes to push.

2) Fair is fair. Men often resort to the wrong tactic, physical, when dealing with women. Play the game. If she writes lists, write your own, If she naggs, nag back. If she makes a request/suggestion/demand, make your own. And hold her feet to the fire, If she ‘punishes’ you for failing in your tasks, repeat it back. People admit what is fair, they just ask for more if they think they can get it.