One of the reasons I live in Northpark is that my ex-girlfriend was pressuring me to invest in housing in 2004. Actually she wanted to get married and invest in housing, namely hers. Not buying the RE is not why I didn’t marry her, but It certainly was a big issue. So far the comments I see are right about two things:
1)Go ahead look at porn and make sure she knows it.
2)If you can’t agree on financial matters you need to have separate finances. If that fails, so will the marriage, and there is nothing worse than an ugly divorce except maybe and failed marriage that isn’t ended.
Any relationship which stifles you as a thinking human is dangerous to say the least. Mostly I post snide stuff but man I feel for you you are not in a good place.