no we are not black….professional white people to answer the post from above…I think the yardwork idea is a pretty good one and I was actually going to be doing that anyway…I am treating it like my own house and watering the newly installed lawn everyday (even though I pay for the water)…

thanks for the good advice….And yes, perhaps there are alot of other professionals juggling the kids and careers which makes little time for socializing….but I will do my part and see what happens…