Regarding what turns on my wife about me – it’s not my body. Although I do still try to keep myself in shape. I know that if I want a good life (sex, companionship, respect, enjoyable time together) with my wife then I need to show not only affection physically and verbally toward her but more importantly with my actions. What have I done for her lately ?
It’s often doing things for her that I don’t even see the importance of. And when she sees that I am trying to change my habits or behaviors for her sake – and not my own – then that pleases her. There’s pleasing your spouse and then there’s pleasing your marriage – and that’s learning how to compromise. Not on everything but on the big things. So that you – she and I – function as a team.
(Sorry, I got a little off track in my own thoughts. 🙂