Divorce is complicated and all situations are different but this is about the worse case scenario. More than likely they will lose the place because they will each be living on half their income now since he will be paying alimony and child support to the tune of half or more. It is doubtful either can swing the place with a 50% cut in pay. California does not recognize individual income, the family income is what it is and it gets divided based on a number of factors. If the divorce is contested the legal fees can exceed 40k. Marriage is grand, divorce is 40 grand.

Staying with her until the kid gets older and she starts working is the only way to fly, divorcing a stay at home mom will leave him with barely enough to eat on, let alone pay a mortgage.

A place in San Diego purchased in 2006 is toast for a decade, so hanging on for a year or two won’t help, that downpayment is gone even if they stay together.

Divorce is complicated and all situations are different but this is about the worse case scenario. More than likely they will lose the place because they will each be living on half their income now since he will be paying alimony and child support to the tune of half or more. It is doubtful either can swing the place with a 50% cut in pay. California does not recognize individual income, the family income is what it is and it gets divided based on a number of factors. If the divorce is contested the legal fees can exceed 40k. Marriage is grand, divorce is 40 grand.

Staying with her until the kid gets older and she starts working is the only way to fly, divorcing a stay at home mom will leave him with barely enough to eat on, let alone pay a mortgage.

A place in San Diego purchased in 2006 is toast for a decade, so hanging on for a year or two won’t help, that downpayment is gone even if they stay together.

Divorce is complicated and all situations are different but this is about the worse case scenario. More than likely they will lose the place because they will each be living on half their income now since he will be paying alimony and child support to the tune of half or more. It is doubtful either can swing the place with a 50% cut in pay. California does not recognize individual income, the family income is what it is and it gets divided based on a number of factors. If the divorce is contested the legal fees can exceed 40k. Marriage is grand, divorce is 40 grand.

Staying with her until the kid gets older and she starts working is the only way to fly, divorcing a stay at home mom will leave him with barely enough to eat on, let alone pay a mortgage.

A place in San Diego purchased in 2006 is toast for a decade, so hanging on for a year or two won’t help, that downpayment is gone even if they stay together.

[quote=temeculaguy] divorcing a stay at home mom will leave him with barely enough to eat on, let alone pay a mortgage[/quote]

How about divorce the wife and ask her to get back to work immediately?

He has the money so he holds the cards.

I don’t think that any judge would approve of her staying at home and not working.

Pay the $40 grand now and get rid of her as fast you he can. That’s better than living with a whiner for the next 10 years.

[quote=temeculaguy] divorcing a stay at home mom will leave him with barely enough to eat on, let alone pay a mortgage[/quote]

How about divorce the wife and ask her to get back to work immediately?

He has the money so he holds the cards.

I don’t think that any judge would approve of her staying at home and not working.

Pay the $40 grand now and get rid of her as fast you he can. That’s better than living with a whiner for the next 10 years.

[quote=patientlywaiting][quote=temeculaguy] divorcing a stay at home mom will leave him with barely enough to eat on, let alone pay a mortgage[/quote]

How about divorce the wife and ask her to get back to work immediately?

He has the money so he holds the cards.

I don’t think that any judge would approve of her staying at home and not working.

Pay the $40 grand now and get rid of her as fast you he can. That’s better than living with a whiner for the next 10 years.
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Whoa horsey! What makes you think she’s a whiner? Stay at home moms aren’t whiners. It’s a family decision. For some families having a parent stay at home to care for the child/children makes the best sense. And if she hasn’t been working it can be a challenge to re-enter the workforce, especially during these economic times. I am not saying she shouldn’t get a job, but don’t make judgements until you have all the facts.

[quote=patientlywaiting][quote=temeculaguy] divorcing a stay at home mom will leave him with barely enough to eat on, let alone pay a mortgage[/quote]

How about divorce the wife and ask her to get back to work immediately?

He has the money so he holds the cards.

I don’t think that any judge would approve of her staying at home and not working.

Pay the $40 grand now and get rid of her as fast you he can. That’s better than living with a whiner for the next 10 years.
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Whoa horsey! What makes you think she’s a whiner? Stay at home moms aren’t whiners. It’s a family decision. For some families having a parent stay at home to care for the child/children makes the best sense. And if she hasn’t been working it can be a challenge to re-enter the workforce, especially during these economic times. I am not saying she shouldn’t get a job, but don’t make judgements until you have all the facts.