HOW COME MY WIFE NEVER RESPONDS TO MY COMMENTS THIS WAY?
This is the answer I was looking for.
I feel exactly the way you are saying.
I realized after living in this Country for 3 years that I don`t need that much to live.
IT IS TERRIBLE IN MY OPINION THAT EVERYTHING IS MORE, MORE WORK, MORE MONEY, MORE STUFF…I LOOK AT PICTURES FROM POOR COUNTRIES, OF EMPTY ROOMS, OF SKINNY PEOPLE, AND THINK, GIVE ME A BIT MORE OF LESS. PLEASE. BUT IT’S DIFFICULT WHEN YOU LIVE INA PLACE WHERE EVERYONE IS INTO THE MAX. ITS HARD NOT TO EAT A LOT AT A BUFFET.
When I first moved here I was so excited about this new experience abroad, being able to be with my husband full time after living apart for years, getting married. Well I was so excited that all the consumistic approach to life that you breath all over USA just got to me in a moment of euphoria.
ITS LIKE A DRUG. I BELIEVE THAT CONSUMPTION, LIKE GAMBLING, IS AS MUCHA DRUG AS METH AND BOOZE AND CIGARETTES.
Everybody was living the American dream, my husband could afford to upgrade and soon I was going to make big money too so we figured “why not?”.
YES, I UNDERSTAND
But I come from Europe where, as everybody knows, people live all their lives in the smallest places because of prices and overpopulation, even the rich. My husband grew up really poor so was forced to live the same way.
We don`t need all this, expecially all the headaches that come with it.
I am really convinced that I want to sell this house, even at a loss. I am sure whatever we loose we can make back in a few years if even.
I DO KNOW THAT IN LIFE I GENERALLY DO THE RIGHT THING WHEN I FOLLOW MY GUT. NOT ALWAYS, BUT A LOT.
The problem is that my husband is too busy with his job and has no clue about what it is going on and would not sell at a loss.
WELL, YES. IT IS HARD TO LIVE WITH ANOTHER HUMAN.
The worst part is that he bought this place for me because he though it was my dream house and now I am asking him to sell at a loss after all the trouble of the remodelling and the money we spent in it. He thinks I am totally delusional!
IF I WERE HIM, I WOULD PROBABLY BE PRETTY PISSED AT YOU! I KNOW I HAVE BEEN THROUGH SIMILAR THINGS WITH MY WIFE — BUT HONEY YOUS AID THIS IS WHAT YOU WANTED –WHY DO YOU PERSIST IN BEING UNHAPPY? HE’LL GET USED TO IT. HE HASNT BEEN MARRIED THAT LONG…
He listened to me the first time and we had this terrible time with the house and now I am asking for something that sounds even worse!
LIFE IS NUTS ISN’T IT? THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN THOUGH IS RATHER THAN BEING MUDDLE HEADED OR FLIP-FLOPPING, I THINK THERE IS GREAT CHARACTER STRENGTH IN BEING ABLE TO CHANGE ONE’S MIND.
It is really hard to push the subject because tecnically he is the business man and he feels he knows better and he doesn`t listen!
WELL, HE IS THE MAN.
Also most of our relationship problems have been caused by the fact that we never seem to agree on anything so I really have to be diplomatic and gentle without forcing the discussion.
YOU ARE THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF MY WIFE. MAYBE YOU CAN SET UPA CONSULT WITH EHR AND SHE CAN SHOW YOU HOW TO TAKE COMPLETE CHARGE FO THE WHOLE SITUATION…
We have been talking about selling from the beginning but he is a perfectionist and would not feel like the house was ever ready for market..and there goes another project!!
HMM… WEIRD…
Until I started to work last year and all the projects got to a forced end (I was the only one dealing with contractors) and we haven`t talked about selling because we got too busy with each others work and interpersonal problems.
IT GETS ABOUT 16.4 TIMES WORSE WITH THE INTRODUCTION OF EACH CHILD. AFTER 2, EVERYTHING COMPLETELY IMPLODES.
Last september, after finding this site I brought that up again and only now I have some more flexible schedule and I can arrange for us to see realtors.
After we talked to the realtor yesterday I think he has a better idea about how bad the market got. I am hoping he will be more open for discussion.
WELL, IF YOU LIST AT A PRICE WHERE YOU DON’T LOSE MONEY, HE CAN’T COMPLAIN TOO MUCH ABOUT THAT. THEN YOU CAN GRADUALLY TALK HIM INTO A LOSS IF THAT’S WHAT YOUD EICED WHAT YOUW ANT TO DO. TRY TO TALK HIM INTO THE PRINCIPLE OF SELLING FIRST, IF THATS YOUR GOAL
We just met with another one today.
He knew our house as he previewed before we bought it. He sold the house next door in 2005 for 1650000.
That house is sort of comparable in size but has no views which really are the selling point for our house, no horse facility, one less garage and half of the usable lot we have.
He came, looked around, was very impressed with the work we had done. He is going to let me know on Saturday what he thinks we should market it for.
I just want to get the house on the market as soon as possible…as long as my husband lets me to.
TELL HIM, WHAT HAVE WE GOT TO LOSE? WE’LL SEE IF IT’S POSSIBLE TO SELL. IF HE HAS NO OFFERS AT THE START PRICE, IT MAY MAKE HIM REEVALUATE WHAT’S GOING ON. OR NOT. I THINK YOU GUYS SHOUDL BE LIVING IN A TINY LITTLE PLACE REQUIRING NO WORK AND SHOULD BE HAVING AS MUCH SEX AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE, TO STORE IT UP FOR THE LEAN YEARS WHEN THERE ARE A BUNCH OF KIDS DRAPED AROUND YOUR BED.
ON THE OTHER HADN YOU CAN STILL DO THAT IN YOUR CURRENT HOUSE.
Thanks again for your sinceer
GOOD LUCK WITH THE DOCTORING. BEING A DOCTOR NOWADAYS IS DRAINING. TRY NOT TO LET THE SYSTEM WEAR YOU DOWN.
