dear publicdefender,
you totally got it!!! This is the answer I was looking for.
I feel exactly the way you are saying.
I realized after living in this Country for 3 years that I don`t need that much to live. When I first moved here I was so excited about this new experience abroad, being able to be with my husband full time after living apart for years, getting married. Well I was so excited that all the consumistic approach to life that you breath all over USA just got to me in a moment of euphoria.
Everybody was living the American dream, my husband could afford to upgrade and soon I was going to make big money too so we figured “why not?”.
But I come from Europe where, as everybody knows, people live all their lives in the smallest places because of prices and overpopulation, even the rich. My husband grew up really poor so was forced to live the same way.
We don`t need all this, expecially all the headaches that come with it.
I am really convinced that I want to sell this house, even at a loss. I am sure whatever we loose we can make back in a few years if even.
The problem is that my husband is too busy with his job and has no clue about what it is going on and would not sell at a loss.
The worst part is that he bought this place for me because he though it was my dream house and now I am asking him to sell at a loss after all the trouble of the remodelling and the money we spent in it. He thinks I am totally delusional!
He listened to me the first time and we had this terrible time with the house and now I am asking for something that sounds even worse!
It is really hard to push the subject because tecnically he is the business man and he feels he knows better and he doesn`t listen!
Also most of our relationship problems have been caused by the fact that we never seem to agree on anything so I really have to be diplomatic and gentle without forcing the discussion.
We have been talking about selling from the beginning but he is a perfectionist and would not feel like the house was ever ready for market..and there goes another project!!
Until I started to work last year and all the projects got to a forced end (I was the only one dealing with contractors) and we haven`t talked about selling because we got too busy with each others work and interpersonal problems.
Last september, after finding this site I brought that up again and only now I have some more flexible schedule and I can arrange for us to see realtors.
After we talked to the realtor yesterday I think he has a better idea about how bad the market got. I am hoping he will be more open for discussion.
We just met with another one today.
He knew our house as he previewed before we bought it. He sold the house next door in 2005 for 1650000.
That house is sort of comparable in size but has no views which really are the selling point for our house, no horse facility, one less garage and half of the usable lot we have.
He came, looked around, was very impressed with the work we had done. He is going to let me know on Saturday what he thinks we should market it for.
I just want to get the house on the market as soon as possible…as long as my husband lets me to.
