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My BS meter goes off with “psychologist” – and happens to spend time on a real estate blog asking for advice on whether to date men with children, or for a divorce lawyer recommendation.

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My BS meter goes off with “psychologist” – and happens to spend time on a real estate blog asking for advice on whether to date men with children, or for a divorce lawyer recommendation.

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I didn’t get a chance to read every post as there were sooo many. In all the posts about woman’s raging hormones and speculation that men don’t get divorced because their wives might take half, why has no one has asked about the validity of men receiving spousal support? There was an article in the WSJ about this last week. No one mentioned that 30% of woman outearn their husbands. Or that woman who have graduate degrees are less likely to get married or have children. What about those men who’s hormones are raging with a deep desire to procreate? What about the woman who shy away from marriage or children because they don’t want their husbands to take half? If marriage isn’t just about love, then why get married? If you don’t want to have children, and you don’t rely on your spouse to provide for you financially, then what do you achieve from subscribing to the institution? I’m honestly asking these questions wanting to solicit the opinions of others.

If you analyze having children purely from an economics standpoint or from an environmental standpoint, or in terms of having free time, then absolutely, having kids is the worse thing you can do. I suppose most people really don’t bother to analyze why they are having kids – I have many friends who wanted them, so they had them- simple as that. Is that selfish, I suppose. On the other hand, we need new generations of workerbees to support SSN and Medicare. Is it wrong when adults who are unable to take care of themselves procreate, therefore relying further on others to assist them in the forms of welfare? My point – people don’t do things necessarily because of a single rational train of thought – such as oh I won’t have kids because I believe in supporting the environment, or oh I won’t have kids because its counterintuitive to the accumulation of wealth, or oh I will have kids because their cute. Is it ever that simple?

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I didn’t get a chance to read every post as there were sooo many. In all the posts about woman’s raging hormones and speculation that men don’t get divorced because their wives might take half, why has no one has asked about the validity of men receiving spousal support? There was an article in the WSJ about this last week. No one mentioned that 30% of woman outearn their husbands. Or that woman who have graduate degrees are less likely to get married or have children. What about those men who’s hormones are raging with a deep desire to procreate? What about the woman who shy away from marriage or children because they don’t want their husbands to take half? If marriage isn’t just about love, then why get married? If you don’t want to have children, and you don’t rely on your spouse to provide for you financially, then what do you achieve from subscribing to the institution? I’m honestly asking these questions wanting to solicit the opinions of others.

If you analyze having children purely from an economics standpoint or from an environmental standpoint, or in terms of having free time, then absolutely, having kids is the worse thing you can do. I suppose most people really don’t bother to analyze why they are having kids – I have many friends who wanted them, so they had them- simple as that. Is that selfish, I suppose. On the other hand, we need new generations of workerbees to support SSN and Medicare. Is it wrong when adults who are unable to take care of themselves procreate, therefore relying further on others to assist them in the forms of welfare? My point – people don’t do things necessarily because of a single rational train of thought – such as oh I won’t have kids because I believe in supporting the environment, or oh I won’t have kids because its counterintuitive to the accumulation of wealth, or oh I will have kids because their cute. Is it ever that simple?

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I didn’t get a chance to read every post as there were sooo many. In all the posts about woman’s raging hormones and speculation that men don’t get divorced because their wives might take half, why has no one has asked about the validity of men receiving spousal support? There was an article in the WSJ about this last week. No one mentioned that 30% of woman outearn their husbands. Or that woman who have graduate degrees are less likely to get married or have children. What about those men who’s hormones are raging with a deep desire to procreate? What about the woman who shy away from marriage or children because they don’t want their husbands to take half? If marriage isn’t just about love, then why get married? If you don’t want to have children, and you don’t rely on your spouse to provide for you financially, then what do you achieve from subscribing to the institution? I’m honestly asking these questions wanting to solicit the opinions of others.

If you analyze having children purely from an economics standpoint or from an environmental standpoint, or in terms of having free time, then absolutely, having kids is the worse thing you can do. I suppose most people really don’t bother to analyze why they are having kids – I have many friends who wanted them, so they had them- simple as that. Is that selfish, I suppose. On the other hand, we need new generations of workerbees to support SSN and Medicare. Is it wrong when adults who are unable to take care of themselves procreate, therefore relying further on others to assist them in the forms of welfare? My point – people don’t do things necessarily because of a single rational train of thought – such as oh I won’t have kids because I believe in supporting the environment, or oh I won’t have kids because its counterintuitive to the accumulation of wealth, or oh I will have kids because their cute. Is it ever that simple?

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I didn’t get a chance to read every post as there were sooo many. In all the posts about woman’s raging hormones and speculation that men don’t get divorced because their wives might take half, why has no one has asked about the validity of men receiving spousal support? There was an article in the WSJ about this last week. No one mentioned that 30% of woman outearn their husbands. Or that woman who have graduate degrees are less likely to get married or have children. What about those men who’s hormones are raging with a deep desire to procreate? What about the woman who shy away from marriage or children because they don’t want their husbands to take half? If marriage isn’t just about love, then why get married? If you don’t want to have children, and you don’t rely on your spouse to provide for you financially, then what do you achieve from subscribing to the institution? I’m honestly asking these questions wanting to solicit the opinions of others.

If you analyze having children purely from an economics standpoint or from an environmental standpoint, or in terms of having free time, then absolutely, having kids is the worse thing you can do. I suppose most people really don’t bother to analyze why they are having kids – I have many friends who wanted them, so they had them- simple as that. Is that selfish, I suppose. On the other hand, we need new generations of workerbees to support SSN and Medicare. Is it wrong when adults who are unable to take care of themselves procreate, therefore relying further on others to assist them in the forms of welfare? My point – people don’t do things necessarily because of a single rational train of thought – such as oh I won’t have kids because I believe in supporting the environment, or oh I won’t have kids because its counterintuitive to the accumulation of wealth, or oh I will have kids because their cute. Is it ever that simple?

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I didn’t get a chance to read every post as there were sooo many. In all the posts about woman’s raging hormones and speculation that men don’t get divorced because their wives might take half, why has no one has asked about the validity of men receiving spousal support? There was an article in the WSJ about this last week. No one mentioned that 30% of woman outearn their husbands. Or that woman who have graduate degrees are less likely to get married or have children. What about those men who’s hormones are raging with a deep desire to procreate? What about the woman who shy away from marriage or children because they don’t want their husbands to take half? If marriage isn’t just about love, then why get married? If you don’t want to have children, and you don’t rely on your spouse to provide for you financially, then what do you achieve from subscribing to the institution? I’m honestly asking these questions wanting to solicit the opinions of others.

If you analyze having children purely from an economics standpoint or from an environmental standpoint, or in terms of having free time, then absolutely, having kids is the worse thing you can do. I suppose most people really don’t bother to analyze why they are having kids – I have many friends who wanted them, so they had them- simple as that. Is that selfish, I suppose. On the other hand, we need new generations of workerbees to support SSN and Medicare. Is it wrong when adults who are unable to take care of themselves procreate, therefore relying further on others to assist them in the forms of welfare? My point – people don’t do things necessarily because of a single rational train of thought – such as oh I won’t have kids because I believe in supporting the environment, or oh I won’t have kids because its counterintuitive to the accumulation of wealth, or oh I will have kids because their cute. Is it ever that simple?

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If family is important, then helping people in tough times is not such a terrible thing if the ability is there and the ability to write it off as money gone is also there. Ask your colleage to put himself in the relatives shoes – if they aren’t just trying to take advantage of others, then its probably hard for them to even ask for the money- which means they really need it. However, the loan should not come with judgement -they’ll just drive themselves crazy judging how other people’s finances are handled. If they opt to loan the money, just be honest about the awkwardness of loaning money and discuss how best to handle it. Either agree to payment terms, or like others have said, give it as a gift.

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If family is important, then helping people in tough times is not such a terrible thing if the ability is there and the ability to write it off as money gone is also there. Ask your colleage to put himself in the relatives shoes – if they aren’t just trying to take advantage of others, then its probably hard for them to even ask for the money- which means they really need it. However, the loan should not come with judgement -they’ll just drive themselves crazy judging how other people’s finances are handled. If they opt to loan the money, just be honest about the awkwardness of loaning money and discuss how best to handle it. Either agree to payment terms, or like others have said, give it as a gift.

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If family is important, then helping people in tough times is not such a terrible thing if the ability is there and the ability to write it off as money gone is also there. Ask your colleage to put himself in the relatives shoes – if they aren’t just trying to take advantage of others, then its probably hard for them to even ask for the money- which means they really need it. However, the loan should not come with judgement -they’ll just drive themselves crazy judging how other people’s finances are handled. If they opt to loan the money, just be honest about the awkwardness of loaning money and discuss how best to handle it. Either agree to payment terms, or like others have said, give it as a gift.

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If family is important, then helping people in tough times is not such a terrible thing if the ability is there and the ability to write it off as money gone is also there. Ask your colleage to put himself in the relatives shoes – if they aren’t just trying to take advantage of others, then its probably hard for them to even ask for the money- which means they really need it. However, the loan should not come with judgement -they’ll just drive themselves crazy judging how other people’s finances are handled. If they opt to loan the money, just be honest about the awkwardness of loaning money and discuss how best to handle it. Either agree to payment terms, or like others have said, give it as a gift.

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If family is important, then helping people in tough times is not such a terrible thing if the ability is there and the ability to write it off as money gone is also there. Ask your colleage to put himself in the relatives shoes – if they aren’t just trying to take advantage of others, then its probably hard for them to even ask for the money- which means they really need it. However, the loan should not come with judgement -they’ll just drive themselves crazy judging how other people’s finances are handled. If they opt to loan the money, just be honest about the awkwardness of loaning money and discuss how best to handle it. Either agree to payment terms, or like others have said, give it as a gift.

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Free things to do with or without kids:
Balboa botanical gardens

Tuesday museums free in Balboa Park – select museum is free each Tuesday

Hiking in all the wonderful nature around town.

http://www.sandiego.org/article/Visitors/795

Nostra- I tried to track all my expenses through a spreadsheet, but I found it too laborious and that it really didn’t shed any light for me. But good for you and I hear friends who do it find it therapeutic or enjoyable….much like cleaning is for others.

I agree with the Starbucks thing – I believe its called the “latte factor” from the book The Automatic Millionnaire. Instead of focusing on the $1 here, $1 there, I have simply adapted a lifestyle where after I figure my fixed costs – rent, insurance, car, etc…I then decide how much I want to save…and I’ve made it fairly automatic. The rest I can do whatever I want with. I’ve made food a variable cost as I can choose to eat only perishables that are on sale, splurge on food, etc.

On the bottled water topic – if you have babies – think about the toxins from the baby bottles!

http://health.usnews.com/usnews/health/healthday/080207/report-shows-dangerous-chemical-can-leach-from-baby-bottles.htm

Anyone found a good solution for avoiding bottled water when traveling / mobile, other than toting around a stainless steel refillable water bottle?

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Free things to do with or without kids:
Balboa botanical gardens

Tuesday museums free in Balboa Park – select museum is free each Tuesday

Hiking in all the wonderful nature around town.

http://www.sandiego.org/article/Visitors/795

Nostra- I tried to track all my expenses through a spreadsheet, but I found it too laborious and that it really didn’t shed any light for me. But good for you and I hear friends who do it find it therapeutic or enjoyable….much like cleaning is for others.

I agree with the Starbucks thing – I believe its called the “latte factor” from the book The Automatic Millionnaire. Instead of focusing on the $1 here, $1 there, I have simply adapted a lifestyle where after I figure my fixed costs – rent, insurance, car, etc…I then decide how much I want to save…and I’ve made it fairly automatic. The rest I can do whatever I want with. I’ve made food a variable cost as I can choose to eat only perishables that are on sale, splurge on food, etc.

On the bottled water topic – if you have babies – think about the toxins from the baby bottles!

http://health.usnews.com/usnews/health/healthday/080207/report-shows-dangerous-chemical-can-leach-from-baby-bottles.htm

Anyone found a good solution for avoiding bottled water when traveling / mobile, other than toting around a stainless steel refillable water bottle?

[zzz]

Free things to do with or without kids:
Balboa botanical gardens

Tuesday museums free in Balboa Park – select museum is free each Tuesday

Hiking in all the wonderful nature around town.

http://www.sandiego.org/article/Visitors/795

Nostra- I tried to track all my expenses through a spreadsheet, but I found it too laborious and that it really didn’t shed any light for me. But good for you and I hear friends who do it find it therapeutic or enjoyable….much like cleaning is for others.

I agree with the Starbucks thing – I believe its called the “latte factor” from the book The Automatic Millionnaire. Instead of focusing on the $1 here, $1 there, I have simply adapted a lifestyle where after I figure my fixed costs – rent, insurance, car, etc…I then decide how much I want to save…and I’ve made it fairly automatic. The rest I can do whatever I want with. I’ve made food a variable cost as I can choose to eat only perishables that are on sale, splurge on food, etc.

On the bottled water topic – if you have babies – think about the toxins from the baby bottles!

http://health.usnews.com/usnews/health/healthday/080207/report-shows-dangerous-chemical-can-leach-from-baby-bottles.htm

Anyone found a good solution for avoiding bottled water when traveling / mobile, other than toting around a stainless steel refillable water bottle?

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