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ParticipantSounds to me like a helicopter just flew over… Gotta go outside and see if there’s a bundle of cash lying in the back yard.
ParticipantSounds to me like a helicopter just flew over… Gotta go outside and see if there’s a bundle of cash lying in the back yard.
ParticipantMarion,
Can I make a simple suggestion? Don’t worry about it at this stage. Don’t worry about the prenup, and don’t worry about a fancy date. But also don’t let yourself get too caught up with falling in love with him either. If you pressure him to take you on a nice date, then you won’t see the real him. Let him show what kind of guy he is on his own. Only after he’s done that, should you even start to think about stuff like prenups. 4 dates is way too soon to start wondering about finances and prenups.
XBoxBoy (Not one of the financially saavy, but oh well.)
ParticipantMarion,
Can I make a simple suggestion? Don’t worry about it at this stage. Don’t worry about the prenup, and don’t worry about a fancy date. But also don’t let yourself get too caught up with falling in love with him either. If you pressure him to take you on a nice date, then you won’t see the real him. Let him show what kind of guy he is on his own. Only after he’s done that, should you even start to think about stuff like prenups. 4 dates is way too soon to start wondering about finances and prenups.
XBoxBoy (Not one of the financially saavy, but oh well.)
ParticipantMarion,
Can I make a simple suggestion? Don’t worry about it at this stage. Don’t worry about the prenup, and don’t worry about a fancy date. But also don’t let yourself get too caught up with falling in love with him either. If you pressure him to take you on a nice date, then you won’t see the real him. Let him show what kind of guy he is on his own. Only after he’s done that, should you even start to think about stuff like prenups. 4 dates is way too soon to start wondering about finances and prenups.
XBoxBoy (Not one of the financially saavy, but oh well.)
ParticipantMarion,
Can I make a simple suggestion? Don’t worry about it at this stage. Don’t worry about the prenup, and don’t worry about a fancy date. But also don’t let yourself get too caught up with falling in love with him either. If you pressure him to take you on a nice date, then you won’t see the real him. Let him show what kind of guy he is on his own. Only after he’s done that, should you even start to think about stuff like prenups. 4 dates is way too soon to start wondering about finances and prenups.
XBoxBoy (Not one of the financially saavy, but oh well.)
ParticipantMarion,
Can I make a simple suggestion? Don’t worry about it at this stage. Don’t worry about the prenup, and don’t worry about a fancy date. But also don’t let yourself get too caught up with falling in love with him either. If you pressure him to take you on a nice date, then you won’t see the real him. Let him show what kind of guy he is on his own. Only after he’s done that, should you even start to think about stuff like prenups. 4 dates is way too soon to start wondering about finances and prenups.
XBoxBoy (Not one of the financially saavy, but oh well.)
ParticipantMy sneaking suspicion is that this plan will cause a lot of people to be unhappy once they find out the details. Paulsen has already made it clear that the bailout won’t be for everyone. ie. not everyone is going to have their rates locked.
If there’s one thing that bugs people it’s the feeling that someone else is getting something and they aren’t getting theirs. When all the people who are struggling with their ARM that didn’t fall into the qualifying time frame find out their neighbors got a lock but they didn’t, watch the crying start. Likewise, those that missed a payment but now are caught back up, but don’t qualify. Or others that don’t qualify for whatever reason. I can hear the weeping and wailing now. And any plan that can be tagged as unfair by a news reporter, with some poor unfortunate working stiff losing his home as the example, is gonna make good news coverage.
They always say the Devil is in the details, and when the details of this plan get out…..
XBoxBoy
ParticipantMy sneaking suspicion is that this plan will cause a lot of people to be unhappy once they find out the details. Paulsen has already made it clear that the bailout won’t be for everyone. ie. not everyone is going to have their rates locked.
If there’s one thing that bugs people it’s the feeling that someone else is getting something and they aren’t getting theirs. When all the people who are struggling with their ARM that didn’t fall into the qualifying time frame find out their neighbors got a lock but they didn’t, watch the crying start. Likewise, those that missed a payment but now are caught back up, but don’t qualify. Or others that don’t qualify for whatever reason. I can hear the weeping and wailing now. And any plan that can be tagged as unfair by a news reporter, with some poor unfortunate working stiff losing his home as the example, is gonna make good news coverage.
They always say the Devil is in the details, and when the details of this plan get out…..
XBoxBoy
ParticipantMy sneaking suspicion is that this plan will cause a lot of people to be unhappy once they find out the details. Paulsen has already made it clear that the bailout won’t be for everyone. ie. not everyone is going to have their rates locked.
If there’s one thing that bugs people it’s the feeling that someone else is getting something and they aren’t getting theirs. When all the people who are struggling with their ARM that didn’t fall into the qualifying time frame find out their neighbors got a lock but they didn’t, watch the crying start. Likewise, those that missed a payment but now are caught back up, but don’t qualify. Or others that don’t qualify for whatever reason. I can hear the weeping and wailing now. And any plan that can be tagged as unfair by a news reporter, with some poor unfortunate working stiff losing his home as the example, is gonna make good news coverage.
They always say the Devil is in the details, and when the details of this plan get out…..
XBoxBoy
ParticipantMy sneaking suspicion is that this plan will cause a lot of people to be unhappy once they find out the details. Paulsen has already made it clear that the bailout won’t be for everyone. ie. not everyone is going to have their rates locked.
If there’s one thing that bugs people it’s the feeling that someone else is getting something and they aren’t getting theirs. When all the people who are struggling with their ARM that didn’t fall into the qualifying time frame find out their neighbors got a lock but they didn’t, watch the crying start. Likewise, those that missed a payment but now are caught back up, but don’t qualify. Or others that don’t qualify for whatever reason. I can hear the weeping and wailing now. And any plan that can be tagged as unfair by a news reporter, with some poor unfortunate working stiff losing his home as the example, is gonna make good news coverage.
They always say the Devil is in the details, and when the details of this plan get out…..
XBoxBoy
ParticipantMy sneaking suspicion is that this plan will cause a lot of people to be unhappy once they find out the details. Paulsen has already made it clear that the bailout won’t be for everyone. ie. not everyone is going to have their rates locked.
If there’s one thing that bugs people it’s the feeling that someone else is getting something and they aren’t getting theirs. When all the people who are struggling with their ARM that didn’t fall into the qualifying time frame find out their neighbors got a lock but they didn’t, watch the crying start. Likewise, those that missed a payment but now are caught back up, but don’t qualify. Or others that don’t qualify for whatever reason. I can hear the weeping and wailing now. And any plan that can be tagged as unfair by a news reporter, with some poor unfortunate working stiff losing his home as the example, is gonna make good news coverage.
They always say the Devil is in the details, and when the details of this plan get out…..
XBoxBoy
ParticipantSD Realtor wrote: Let me know of any secrets you come across with to help keep your wife patient as I am running out of tricks.
To all those with this problem let me say that the solution I found that worked the best was to go rent a really nice place. (With a big emphasis on the word nice!) My wife was really after me to buy, putting on daily pressure, but I was reluctant for all the reasons that people write about here. (We have a good bit of money saved so we could afford to buy, I just didn’t think it was a good idea.) We were living in an apartment that was okay, but just okay, certainly not as nice as we could afford. But we were saving money. But I realized that living in the less than ideal situation was making things all the more difficult. So, I went out and found a really nice house to rent. Yes, we are spending a lot in rent, but still less than we would be losing if we had bought. Now my wife’s concern is that we are living in a house that is nicer than we will be able to afford. This seems to be much easier for her to deal with, and lately she has not put any pressure on me to buy a place. (Probably because she realizes that buying will mean a step down in living conditions.)
Anyway, bottom line, if your wife is after you to buy, go rent the nicest place you can find/afford. You might not be able to bank as much money, but then again you are living well, not watching your equity shrink, and rents are still half what a mortgage payment would be. Overall a much better deal. I highly recommend this strategy.
XBoxBoy
ParticipantSD Realtor wrote: Let me know of any secrets you come across with to help keep your wife patient as I am running out of tricks.
To all those with this problem let me say that the solution I found that worked the best was to go rent a really nice place. (With a big emphasis on the word nice!) My wife was really after me to buy, putting on daily pressure, but I was reluctant for all the reasons that people write about here. (We have a good bit of money saved so we could afford to buy, I just didn’t think it was a good idea.) We were living in an apartment that was okay, but just okay, certainly not as nice as we could afford. But we were saving money. But I realized that living in the less than ideal situation was making things all the more difficult. So, I went out and found a really nice house to rent. Yes, we are spending a lot in rent, but still less than we would be losing if we had bought. Now my wife’s concern is that we are living in a house that is nicer than we will be able to afford. This seems to be much easier for her to deal with, and lately she has not put any pressure on me to buy a place. (Probably because she realizes that buying will mean a step down in living conditions.)
Anyway, bottom line, if your wife is after you to buy, go rent the nicest place you can find/afford. You might not be able to bank as much money, but then again you are living well, not watching your equity shrink, and rents are still half what a mortgage payment would be. Overall a much better deal. I highly recommend this strategy.
XBoxBoy
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