[Ricechex]

Wow. Many years ago on a road trip back from LV I was thinking about how people crossed in covered wagons. They lived to get out west and died in childbirth, and sometimes due to weather conditions/food were left to die without burial. Each day was a fight for survival. They didn’t have time to worry about whether they were happy, had no future, directionless, etc.

Unfortunately, or fortunately for us, because our basic needs are met, we have the time and energy to contemplate this ideal of “happiness.” Maybe, we aren’t supposed to be happy? Maybe, just being “okay” is good enough? Would it help to adjust your expectations?

Sounds like you are here for Erikson’s Stages of Development:
7. Middle Adulthood: 35 to 55 or 65

Ego Development Outcome: Generativity vs. Self absorption or Stagnation

Basic Strengths: Production and Care

Now work is most crucial. Erikson observed that middle-age is when we tend to be occupied with creative and meaningful work and with issues surrounding our family. Also, middle adulthood is when we can expect to “be in charge,” the role we’ve longer envied.

The significant task is to perpetuate culture and transmit values of the culture through the family (taming the kids) and working to establish a stable environment. Strength comes through care of others and production of something that contributes to the betterment of society, which Erikson calls generativity, so when we’re in this stage we often fear inactivity and meaninglessness.

As our children leave home, or our relationships or goals change, we may be faced with major life changes—the mid-life crisis—and struggle with finding new meanings and purposes. If we don’t get through this stage successfully, we can become self-absorbed and stagnate.

Significant relationships are within the workplace, the community and the family.
http://www.learningplaceonline.com/stages/organize/Erikson.htm

The other thing that came to mind, and I am quite serious is: Pre-Menopause. Could be your hormones are all jacked up. For a holistic approach, recommend, per day:
1 capsule 1000 mg Vitamin C
1 capsule Phyto-Estrogen
Daily Tincture of Vitex, Elixir for Women

[Ricechex]

CA Renter, hats off to you! Yes, active duty and families do receive more benefits now. And, yes, the spouses do whine at times, and need to be set straight. However, many are young and do not understand the military, and it seems that new marriages at such a young age with long periods of separation create a greater level of anxiety. Older more established marriages seem to tolerate the separations more effectively. And, most of lower ranking enlisted are young.

Service members can also contact The Fleet and Family Support Center (FFSC) for assistance. There is an FFSC at every base and satellite offices in Murphy Canyon, Serra Mesa and Bayview.

[Ricechex]

CA Renter, hats off to you! Yes, active duty and families do receive more benefits now. And, yes, the spouses do whine at times, and need to be set straight. However, many are young and do not understand the military, and it seems that new marriages at such a young age with long periods of separation create a greater level of anxiety. Older more established marriages seem to tolerate the separations more effectively. And, most of lower ranking enlisted are young.

Service members can also contact The Fleet and Family Support Center (FFSC) for assistance. There is an FFSC at every base and satellite offices in Murphy Canyon, Serra Mesa and Bayview.

[Ricechex]

CA Renter, hats off to you! Yes, active duty and families do receive more benefits now. And, yes, the spouses do whine at times, and need to be set straight. However, many are young and do not understand the military, and it seems that new marriages at such a young age with long periods of separation create a greater level of anxiety. Older more established marriages seem to tolerate the separations more effectively. And, most of lower ranking enlisted are young.

Service members can also contact The Fleet and Family Support Center (FFSC) for assistance. There is an FFSC at every base and satellite offices in Murphy Canyon, Serra Mesa and Bayview.

[Ricechex]

CA Renter, hats off to you! Yes, active duty and families do receive more benefits now. And, yes, the spouses do whine at times, and need to be set straight. However, many are young and do not understand the military, and it seems that new marriages at such a young age with long periods of separation create a greater level of anxiety. Older more established marriages seem to tolerate the separations more effectively. And, most of lower ranking enlisted are young.

Service members can also contact The Fleet and Family Support Center (FFSC) for assistance. There is an FFSC at every base and satellite offices in Murphy Canyon, Serra Mesa and Bayview.

[Ricechex]

CA Renter, hats off to you! Yes, active duty and families do receive more benefits now. And, yes, the spouses do whine at times, and need to be set straight. However, many are young and do not understand the military, and it seems that new marriages at such a young age with long periods of separation create a greater level of anxiety. Older more established marriages seem to tolerate the separations more effectively. And, most of lower ranking enlisted are young.

Service members can also contact The Fleet and Family Support Center (FFSC) for assistance. There is an FFSC at every base and satellite offices in Murphy Canyon, Serra Mesa and Bayview.

[Ricechex]

The military are hardly overpaid, considering their duties. Their operational schedules and deployments are even more frequent than they were 5 years ago. They come back from a 6-8 month deployment, and in just 6 weeks are back to frequent underways. In less than a year, many of them are back on another deployment. It is very hard on the families. Sometimes they miss the births of their children. Imagine missing 6 months of your one year old’s development?

Sometimes, the kids don’t even know them when they return. Sometimes they return to find their wives have been cheating, moved out, bought cars/run up the bills…not saying this couldn’t happen if they were home, but being across the world with sporadic email and minimal phone calls, makes it much harder for them to know what is going on.

Many of these guys/ladies work very hard, and if there are unresolvable problems, they are administratively separated.

[Ricechex]

The military are hardly overpaid, considering their duties. Their operational schedules and deployments are even more frequent than they were 5 years ago. They come back from a 6-8 month deployment, and in just 6 weeks are back to frequent underways. In less than a year, many of them are back on another deployment. It is very hard on the families. Sometimes they miss the births of their children. Imagine missing 6 months of your one year old’s development?

Sometimes, the kids don’t even know them when they return. Sometimes they return to find their wives have been cheating, moved out, bought cars/run up the bills…not saying this couldn’t happen if they were home, but being across the world with sporadic email and minimal phone calls, makes it much harder for them to know what is going on.

Many of these guys/ladies work very hard, and if there are unresolvable problems, they are administratively separated.

[Ricechex]

The military are hardly overpaid, considering their duties. Their operational schedules and deployments are even more frequent than they were 5 years ago. They come back from a 6-8 month deployment, and in just 6 weeks are back to frequent underways. In less than a year, many of them are back on another deployment. It is very hard on the families. Sometimes they miss the births of their children. Imagine missing 6 months of your one year old’s development?

Sometimes, the kids don’t even know them when they return. Sometimes they return to find their wives have been cheating, moved out, bought cars/run up the bills…not saying this couldn’t happen if they were home, but being across the world with sporadic email and minimal phone calls, makes it much harder for them to know what is going on.

Many of these guys/ladies work very hard, and if there are unresolvable problems, they are administratively separated.

[Ricechex]

The military are hardly overpaid, considering their duties. Their operational schedules and deployments are even more frequent than they were 5 years ago. They come back from a 6-8 month deployment, and in just 6 weeks are back to frequent underways. In less than a year, many of them are back on another deployment. It is very hard on the families. Sometimes they miss the births of their children. Imagine missing 6 months of your one year old’s development?

Sometimes, the kids don’t even know them when they return. Sometimes they return to find their wives have been cheating, moved out, bought cars/run up the bills…not saying this couldn’t happen if they were home, but being across the world with sporadic email and minimal phone calls, makes it much harder for them to know what is going on.

Many of these guys/ladies work very hard, and if there are unresolvable problems, they are administratively separated.

[Ricechex]

The military are hardly overpaid, considering their duties. Their operational schedules and deployments are even more frequent than they were 5 years ago. They come back from a 6-8 month deployment, and in just 6 weeks are back to frequent underways. In less than a year, many of them are back on another deployment. It is very hard on the families. Sometimes they miss the births of their children. Imagine missing 6 months of your one year old’s development?

Sometimes, the kids don’t even know them when they return. Sometimes they return to find their wives have been cheating, moved out, bought cars/run up the bills…not saying this couldn’t happen if they were home, but being across the world with sporadic email and minimal phone calls, makes it much harder for them to know what is going on.

Many of these guys/ladies work very hard, and if there are unresolvable problems, they are administratively separated.

[Ricechex]

I am guessing you could find a rental in CV that allows dogs. Only because those are high end homes, and I think high end renters may be permitted dogs, as they may be presumed to be more responsible. I concur about checking craigslist and using the pet screening option.

I think it is the lower end homes that won’t allow dogs because they end up with people that don’t take care of the dogs, and the dogs trash the house, left outside tethered on leashes (which is now against the law).

What I would check is if there is any law forbidding bringing pets to USA. Also, you cannot fly with pets during the summer or winter, because large pets are put in the cargo hold, and can die from heat or cold.

[Ricechex]

I am guessing you could find a rental in CV that allows dogs. Only because those are high end homes, and I think high end renters may be permitted dogs, as they may be presumed to be more responsible. I concur about checking craigslist and using the pet screening option.

I think it is the lower end homes that won’t allow dogs because they end up with people that don’t take care of the dogs, and the dogs trash the house, left outside tethered on leashes (which is now against the law).

What I would check is if there is any law forbidding bringing pets to USA. Also, you cannot fly with pets during the summer or winter, because large pets are put in the cargo hold, and can die from heat or cold.

[Ricechex]

I am guessing you could find a rental in CV that allows dogs. Only because those are high end homes, and I think high end renters may be permitted dogs, as they may be presumed to be more responsible. I concur about checking craigslist and using the pet screening option.

I think it is the lower end homes that won’t allow dogs because they end up with people that don’t take care of the dogs, and the dogs trash the house, left outside tethered on leashes (which is now against the law).

What I would check is if there is any law forbidding bringing pets to USA. Also, you cannot fly with pets during the summer or winter, because large pets are put in the cargo hold, and can die from heat or cold.

[Ricechex]

I am guessing you could find a rental in CV that allows dogs. Only because those are high end homes, and I think high end renters may be permitted dogs, as they may be presumed to be more responsible. I concur about checking craigslist and using the pet screening option.

I think it is the lower end homes that won’t allow dogs because they end up with people that don’t take care of the dogs, and the dogs trash the house, left outside tethered on leashes (which is now against the law).

What I would check is if there is any law forbidding bringing pets to USA. Also, you cannot fly with pets during the summer or winter, because large pets are put in the cargo hold, and can die from heat or cold.

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