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ParticipantWell, there are always 2 sides to every story. I can understand supporting your kids as much as you can. But I know with some people they don’t act logically or think rationally. I’m not sure I agree with the “reasonably intelligent girl”. I mean, listen to what she wrote about quickly getting engaged to some guy she met on Twitter!
That doesn’t sound like someone that is reasonably intelligent. Normal, intelligent people don’t do things like that. It sounds like someone that is a mess and doesn’t have good common sense skills and logic or reasoning. So maybe her parents kicked her out for a reason.
Definitely if my kids were struggling at 23 I’d take them in. But I would want them to be a productive member of society and not just mooching off of me. They’d have to be working or actively looking for work, etc.
But at the same time, I know of some people that are just lazy by nature and don’t like working. And there isn’t any reason why parents should encourage or support that kind of behavior at 23. So if this girl (and others) are like this…kicking them out might be the best thing you can do to teach them that you can’t get sit back and do nothing in life.
You can see many countries where kids live at home essentially until they are married. And they work, have normal lives, go to school, etc. When I lived in Argentina, I really liked seeing the closeness of families. Females many times would live at home until 30’s or until they got married. Same with males. They would save up, not go crazy with debt and that was common to live at home, save up money and get a true start on life.
I do think sometimes you gotta have some tough love.
earlyretirement
ParticipantWell, there are always 2 sides to every story. I can understand supporting your kids as much as you can. But I know with some people they don’t act logically or think rationally. I’m not sure I agree with the “reasonably intelligent girl”. I mean, listen to what she wrote about quickly getting engaged to some guy she met on Twitter!
That doesn’t sound like someone that is reasonably intelligent. Normal, intelligent people don’t do things like that. It sounds like someone that is a mess and doesn’t have good common sense skills and logic or reasoning. So maybe her parents kicked her out for a reason.
Definitely if my kids were struggling at 23 I’d take them in. But I would want them to be a productive member of society and not just mooching off of me. They’d have to be working or actively looking for work, etc.
But at the same time, I know of some people that are just lazy by nature and don’t like working. And there isn’t any reason why parents should encourage or support that kind of behavior at 23. So if this girl (and others) are like this…kicking them out might be the best thing you can do to teach them that you can’t get sit back and do nothing in life.
You can see many countries where kids live at home essentially until they are married. And they work, have normal lives, go to school, etc. When I lived in Argentina, I really liked seeing the closeness of families. Females many times would live at home until 30’s or until they got married. Same with males. They would save up, not go crazy with debt and that was common to live at home, save up money and get a true start on life.
I do think sometimes you gotta have some tough love.
earlyretirement
ParticipantWell, there are always 2 sides to every story. I can understand supporting your kids as much as you can. But I know with some people they don’t act logically or think rationally. I’m not sure I agree with the “reasonably intelligent girl”. I mean, listen to what she wrote about quickly getting engaged to some guy she met on Twitter!
That doesn’t sound like someone that is reasonably intelligent. Normal, intelligent people don’t do things like that. It sounds like someone that is a mess and doesn’t have good common sense skills and logic or reasoning. So maybe her parents kicked her out for a reason.
Definitely if my kids were struggling at 23 I’d take them in. But I would want them to be a productive member of society and not just mooching off of me. They’d have to be working or actively looking for work, etc.
But at the same time, I know of some people that are just lazy by nature and don’t like working. And there isn’t any reason why parents should encourage or support that kind of behavior at 23. So if this girl (and others) are like this…kicking them out might be the best thing you can do to teach them that you can’t get sit back and do nothing in life.
You can see many countries where kids live at home essentially until they are married. And they work, have normal lives, go to school, etc. When I lived in Argentina, I really liked seeing the closeness of families. Females many times would live at home until 30’s or until they got married. Same with males. They would save up, not go crazy with debt and that was common to live at home, save up money and get a true start on life.
I do think sometimes you gotta have some tough love.
earlyretirement
ParticipantWell, there are always 2 sides to every story. I can understand supporting your kids as much as you can. But I know with some people they don’t act logically or think rationally. I’m not sure I agree with the “reasonably intelligent girl”. I mean, listen to what she wrote about quickly getting engaged to some guy she met on Twitter!
That doesn’t sound like someone that is reasonably intelligent. Normal, intelligent people don’t do things like that. It sounds like someone that is a mess and doesn’t have good common sense skills and logic or reasoning. So maybe her parents kicked her out for a reason.
Definitely if my kids were struggling at 23 I’d take them in. But I would want them to be a productive member of society and not just mooching off of me. They’d have to be working or actively looking for work, etc.
But at the same time, I know of some people that are just lazy by nature and don’t like working. And there isn’t any reason why parents should encourage or support that kind of behavior at 23. So if this girl (and others) are like this…kicking them out might be the best thing you can do to teach them that you can’t get sit back and do nothing in life.
You can see many countries where kids live at home essentially until they are married. And they work, have normal lives, go to school, etc. When I lived in Argentina, I really liked seeing the closeness of families. Females many times would live at home until 30’s or until they got married. Same with males. They would save up, not go crazy with debt and that was common to live at home, save up money and get a true start on life.
I do think sometimes you gotta have some tough love.
earlyretirement
Participant[quote=EconProf]A couple of Santaluz negatives to watch out for: The area west of Del Sur is much different from the area on the east side in terms of density. They have streets cluttered with vehicles as a result. Also, beware of getting any house near to Del Sur as it is quite noisy since speeds are going up there and traffic increasing–they are now expanding that part of Del Sur north of San Diguito Road to four lanes from two.[/quote]
Thanks EconProf,
Yeah, I noticed that area. I even toured some houses on that side. I didn’t mind the size of the yards. The ONLY concern to me was the potential noise from Camino Del Sur. I went in the middle of the day to tour and I couldn’t hear any traffic but I’ll go back during rush hour at the end of the day. But I would have thought I would have heard more noise.
I did see the construction of the road while I was driving around. But I think it’s good for potential buyers to be aware of all of these things.
Econproof, besides the high HOA and MR do you have any negatives at all about living in Santaluz? What would be the 3 things you would change if you could?
earlyretirement
Participant[quote=EconProf]A couple of Santaluz negatives to watch out for: The area west of Del Sur is much different from the area on the east side in terms of density. They have streets cluttered with vehicles as a result. Also, beware of getting any house near to Del Sur as it is quite noisy since speeds are going up there and traffic increasing–they are now expanding that part of Del Sur north of San Diguito Road to four lanes from two.[/quote]
Thanks EconProf,
Yeah, I noticed that area. I even toured some houses on that side. I didn’t mind the size of the yards. The ONLY concern to me was the potential noise from Camino Del Sur. I went in the middle of the day to tour and I couldn’t hear any traffic but I’ll go back during rush hour at the end of the day. But I would have thought I would have heard more noise.
I did see the construction of the road while I was driving around. But I think it’s good for potential buyers to be aware of all of these things.
Econproof, besides the high HOA and MR do you have any negatives at all about living in Santaluz? What would be the 3 things you would change if you could?
earlyretirement
Participant[quote=EconProf]A couple of Santaluz negatives to watch out for: The area west of Del Sur is much different from the area on the east side in terms of density. They have streets cluttered with vehicles as a result. Also, beware of getting any house near to Del Sur as it is quite noisy since speeds are going up there and traffic increasing–they are now expanding that part of Del Sur north of San Diguito Road to four lanes from two.[/quote]
Thanks EconProf,
Yeah, I noticed that area. I even toured some houses on that side. I didn’t mind the size of the yards. The ONLY concern to me was the potential noise from Camino Del Sur. I went in the middle of the day to tour and I couldn’t hear any traffic but I’ll go back during rush hour at the end of the day. But I would have thought I would have heard more noise.
I did see the construction of the road while I was driving around. But I think it’s good for potential buyers to be aware of all of these things.
Econproof, besides the high HOA and MR do you have any negatives at all about living in Santaluz? What would be the 3 things you would change if you could?
earlyretirement
Participant[quote=EconProf]A couple of Santaluz negatives to watch out for: The area west of Del Sur is much different from the area on the east side in terms of density. They have streets cluttered with vehicles as a result. Also, beware of getting any house near to Del Sur as it is quite noisy since speeds are going up there and traffic increasing–they are now expanding that part of Del Sur north of San Diguito Road to four lanes from two.[/quote]
Thanks EconProf,
Yeah, I noticed that area. I even toured some houses on that side. I didn’t mind the size of the yards. The ONLY concern to me was the potential noise from Camino Del Sur. I went in the middle of the day to tour and I couldn’t hear any traffic but I’ll go back during rush hour at the end of the day. But I would have thought I would have heard more noise.
I did see the construction of the road while I was driving around. But I think it’s good for potential buyers to be aware of all of these things.
Econproof, besides the high HOA and MR do you have any negatives at all about living in Santaluz? What would be the 3 things you would change if you could?
earlyretirement
Participant[quote=EconProf]A couple of Santaluz negatives to watch out for: The area west of Del Sur is much different from the area on the east side in terms of density. They have streets cluttered with vehicles as a result. Also, beware of getting any house near to Del Sur as it is quite noisy since speeds are going up there and traffic increasing–they are now expanding that part of Del Sur north of San Diguito Road to four lanes from two.[/quote]
Thanks EconProf,
Yeah, I noticed that area. I even toured some houses on that side. I didn’t mind the size of the yards. The ONLY concern to me was the potential noise from Camino Del Sur. I went in the middle of the day to tour and I couldn’t hear any traffic but I’ll go back during rush hour at the end of the day. But I would have thought I would have heard more noise.
I did see the construction of the road while I was driving around. But I think it’s good for potential buyers to be aware of all of these things.
Econproof, besides the high HOA and MR do you have any negatives at all about living in Santaluz? What would be the 3 things you would change if you could?
earlyretirement
ParticipantThanks everyone for the great comments. I posted on another forum as well and was surprised to read that so many houses here don’t have the rain gutters. I thought it wouldn’t be that common. But it’s helpful to note that it’s more common here.
Yeah, definitely we will like living with less rain but we’ll want the gutters too. Ha, ha.
We just spent a month up in Toronto before coming down here and it was so depressing as we literally only had about 7 sunny days out of 30 with it raining almost every day.
We’re going to really love living in San Diego with this gorgeous weather…
earlyretirement
ParticipantThanks everyone for the great comments. I posted on another forum as well and was surprised to read that so many houses here don’t have the rain gutters. I thought it wouldn’t be that common. But it’s helpful to note that it’s more common here.
Yeah, definitely we will like living with less rain but we’ll want the gutters too. Ha, ha.
We just spent a month up in Toronto before coming down here and it was so depressing as we literally only had about 7 sunny days out of 30 with it raining almost every day.
We’re going to really love living in San Diego with this gorgeous weather…
earlyretirement
ParticipantThanks everyone for the great comments. I posted on another forum as well and was surprised to read that so many houses here don’t have the rain gutters. I thought it wouldn’t be that common. But it’s helpful to note that it’s more common here.
Yeah, definitely we will like living with less rain but we’ll want the gutters too. Ha, ha.
We just spent a month up in Toronto before coming down here and it was so depressing as we literally only had about 7 sunny days out of 30 with it raining almost every day.
We’re going to really love living in San Diego with this gorgeous weather…
earlyretirement
ParticipantThanks everyone for the great comments. I posted on another forum as well and was surprised to read that so many houses here don’t have the rain gutters. I thought it wouldn’t be that common. But it’s helpful to note that it’s more common here.
Yeah, definitely we will like living with less rain but we’ll want the gutters too. Ha, ha.
We just spent a month up in Toronto before coming down here and it was so depressing as we literally only had about 7 sunny days out of 30 with it raining almost every day.
We’re going to really love living in San Diego with this gorgeous weather…
earlyretirement
ParticipantThanks everyone for the great comments. I posted on another forum as well and was surprised to read that so many houses here don’t have the rain gutters. I thought it wouldn’t be that common. But it’s helpful to note that it’s more common here.
Yeah, definitely we will like living with less rain but we’ll want the gutters too. Ha, ha.
We just spent a month up in Toronto before coming down here and it was so depressing as we literally only had about 7 sunny days out of 30 with it raining almost every day.
We’re going to really love living in San Diego with this gorgeous weather…
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