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ParticipantMarion,
Exercising your rights is one thing. Engaging in trench warfare is something else entirely.
I’ve been through a divorce and a custody hassle, and the one thing I can tell you is that the term “living well is the best revenge” is 100% true, especially when it comes to the kids. Your kids will each turn 16 one day, at which point they will be able to make their own decisions with respect to custody and lifestyles. And make no mistake, when that time comes they will gravitate to the parent who can help them solve their problems, not the one who causes all the problems.
My ex relied on the legal system to get what she wanted and she ultimately ended up alone and pissed off. I gave her everything she wanted without fighting it, and I ended up with the hearts and minds. She’s not a bad person by any means, but she lost sight of the big picture and now she’s paying for it.
Each of my kids left my ex at their first opportunity (between 15-16), and came into my household to grow up. My ex couldn’t stop them, even though she was convinced that I am the Devil incarnate.
I guess what I’m saying is that regardless of what happens over the next 6 or 7 years there will be another 40 years after that in which you’ll have to live with your decisions. As angry as you are at this moment you shouldn’t allow it to cloud your judgement or infringe on your long term goals.
ParticipantMarion,
Exercising your rights is one thing. Engaging in trench warfare is something else entirely.
I’ve been through a divorce and a custody hassle, and the one thing I can tell you is that the term “living well is the best revenge” is 100% true, especially when it comes to the kids. Your kids will each turn 16 one day, at which point they will be able to make their own decisions with respect to custody and lifestyles. And make no mistake, when that time comes they will gravitate to the parent who can help them solve their problems, not the one who causes all the problems.
My ex relied on the legal system to get what she wanted and she ultimately ended up alone and pissed off. I gave her everything she wanted without fighting it, and I ended up with the hearts and minds. She’s not a bad person by any means, but she lost sight of the big picture and now she’s paying for it.
Each of my kids left my ex at their first opportunity (between 15-16), and came into my household to grow up. My ex couldn’t stop them, even though she was convinced that I am the Devil incarnate.
I guess what I’m saying is that regardless of what happens over the next 6 or 7 years there will be another 40 years after that in which you’ll have to live with your decisions. As angry as you are at this moment you shouldn’t allow it to cloud your judgement or infringe on your long term goals.
ParticipantMarion,
Exercising your rights is one thing. Engaging in trench warfare is something else entirely.
I’ve been through a divorce and a custody hassle, and the one thing I can tell you is that the term “living well is the best revenge” is 100% true, especially when it comes to the kids. Your kids will each turn 16 one day, at which point they will be able to make their own decisions with respect to custody and lifestyles. And make no mistake, when that time comes they will gravitate to the parent who can help them solve their problems, not the one who causes all the problems.
My ex relied on the legal system to get what she wanted and she ultimately ended up alone and pissed off. I gave her everything she wanted without fighting it, and I ended up with the hearts and minds. She’s not a bad person by any means, but she lost sight of the big picture and now she’s paying for it.
Each of my kids left my ex at their first opportunity (between 15-16), and came into my household to grow up. My ex couldn’t stop them, even though she was convinced that I am the Devil incarnate.
I guess what I’m saying is that regardless of what happens over the next 6 or 7 years there will be another 40 years after that in which you’ll have to live with your decisions. As angry as you are at this moment you shouldn’t allow it to cloud your judgement or infringe on your long term goals.
ParticipantMarion,
Exercising your rights is one thing. Engaging in trench warfare is something else entirely.
I’ve been through a divorce and a custody hassle, and the one thing I can tell you is that the term “living well is the best revenge” is 100% true, especially when it comes to the kids. Your kids will each turn 16 one day, at which point they will be able to make their own decisions with respect to custody and lifestyles. And make no mistake, when that time comes they will gravitate to the parent who can help them solve their problems, not the one who causes all the problems.
My ex relied on the legal system to get what she wanted and she ultimately ended up alone and pissed off. I gave her everything she wanted without fighting it, and I ended up with the hearts and minds. She’s not a bad person by any means, but she lost sight of the big picture and now she’s paying for it.
Each of my kids left my ex at their first opportunity (between 15-16), and came into my household to grow up. My ex couldn’t stop them, even though she was convinced that I am the Devil incarnate.
I guess what I’m saying is that regardless of what happens over the next 6 or 7 years there will be another 40 years after that in which you’ll have to live with your decisions. As angry as you are at this moment you shouldn’t allow it to cloud your judgement or infringe on your long term goals.
ParticipantThese are the people that the politicians want to rescue.
ParticipantThese are the people that the politicians want to rescue.
ParticipantThese are the people that the politicians want to rescue.
ParticipantThese are the people that the politicians want to rescue.
ParticipantThese are the people that the politicians want to rescue.
ParticipantFrom what you’re saying it appears that you’re setting a horrible example for your children. You’re exacerbating a rift within your side of the family and you’re getting involved in a fight wherein the only winners will be the lawyers.
Even if you do get the cash, the lawyers fees will detract from the resources used to take care of your children, both now and for the remainder of their adolescence.
Being a happy and productive member of society doesn’t mean not having problems; it means learning how to work through your problems in a mature and efficient manner. Your children will learn their coping mechanisms by example, and the example you’re chortling about here is the worst case scenario.
This example doesn’t demonstrate the benefits of self-reliance and personal resourcefulness – it demonstrates an attitude of external gratification, of vindictiveness and revenge, of pettiness and greed. You are showing your children that if they’re incapable of meeting their own needs their next best shot is to pursue their “entitlements” regardless of the chaos and turmoil it causes at home and within the family.
Your kids will grow up and when they do you will no longer be in control of the relationship. You’ll be along for the ride in whichever direction they choose to go. Your kids will be adults for a lot longer than they were children, and if you poison this well now you will be sorry for the rest of your life.
Considering your chosen profession and its applications in our society I am shocked that you would allow yourself to lose composure in this way.
Mark my words – going down this path will not make you (or your children) happy and it will not make your life one bit better.
ParticipantFrom what you’re saying it appears that you’re setting a horrible example for your children. You’re exacerbating a rift within your side of the family and you’re getting involved in a fight wherein the only winners will be the lawyers.
Even if you do get the cash, the lawyers fees will detract from the resources used to take care of your children, both now and for the remainder of their adolescence.
Being a happy and productive member of society doesn’t mean not having problems; it means learning how to work through your problems in a mature and efficient manner. Your children will learn their coping mechanisms by example, and the example you’re chortling about here is the worst case scenario.
This example doesn’t demonstrate the benefits of self-reliance and personal resourcefulness – it demonstrates an attitude of external gratification, of vindictiveness and revenge, of pettiness and greed. You are showing your children that if they’re incapable of meeting their own needs their next best shot is to pursue their “entitlements” regardless of the chaos and turmoil it causes at home and within the family.
Your kids will grow up and when they do you will no longer be in control of the relationship. You’ll be along for the ride in whichever direction they choose to go. Your kids will be adults for a lot longer than they were children, and if you poison this well now you will be sorry for the rest of your life.
Considering your chosen profession and its applications in our society I am shocked that you would allow yourself to lose composure in this way.
Mark my words – going down this path will not make you (or your children) happy and it will not make your life one bit better.
ParticipantFrom what you’re saying it appears that you’re setting a horrible example for your children. You’re exacerbating a rift within your side of the family and you’re getting involved in a fight wherein the only winners will be the lawyers.
Even if you do get the cash, the lawyers fees will detract from the resources used to take care of your children, both now and for the remainder of their adolescence.
Being a happy and productive member of society doesn’t mean not having problems; it means learning how to work through your problems in a mature and efficient manner. Your children will learn their coping mechanisms by example, and the example you’re chortling about here is the worst case scenario.
This example doesn’t demonstrate the benefits of self-reliance and personal resourcefulness – it demonstrates an attitude of external gratification, of vindictiveness and revenge, of pettiness and greed. You are showing your children that if they’re incapable of meeting their own needs their next best shot is to pursue their “entitlements” regardless of the chaos and turmoil it causes at home and within the family.
Your kids will grow up and when they do you will no longer be in control of the relationship. You’ll be along for the ride in whichever direction they choose to go. Your kids will be adults for a lot longer than they were children, and if you poison this well now you will be sorry for the rest of your life.
Considering your chosen profession and its applications in our society I am shocked that you would allow yourself to lose composure in this way.
Mark my words – going down this path will not make you (or your children) happy and it will not make your life one bit better.
ParticipantFrom what you’re saying it appears that you’re setting a horrible example for your children. You’re exacerbating a rift within your side of the family and you’re getting involved in a fight wherein the only winners will be the lawyers.
Even if you do get the cash, the lawyers fees will detract from the resources used to take care of your children, both now and for the remainder of their adolescence.
Being a happy and productive member of society doesn’t mean not having problems; it means learning how to work through your problems in a mature and efficient manner. Your children will learn their coping mechanisms by example, and the example you’re chortling about here is the worst case scenario.
This example doesn’t demonstrate the benefits of self-reliance and personal resourcefulness – it demonstrates an attitude of external gratification, of vindictiveness and revenge, of pettiness and greed. You are showing your children that if they’re incapable of meeting their own needs their next best shot is to pursue their “entitlements” regardless of the chaos and turmoil it causes at home and within the family.
Your kids will grow up and when they do you will no longer be in control of the relationship. You’ll be along for the ride in whichever direction they choose to go. Your kids will be adults for a lot longer than they were children, and if you poison this well now you will be sorry for the rest of your life.
Considering your chosen profession and its applications in our society I am shocked that you would allow yourself to lose composure in this way.
Mark my words – going down this path will not make you (or your children) happy and it will not make your life one bit better.
ParticipantFrom what you’re saying it appears that you’re setting a horrible example for your children. You’re exacerbating a rift within your side of the family and you’re getting involved in a fight wherein the only winners will be the lawyers.
Even if you do get the cash, the lawyers fees will detract from the resources used to take care of your children, both now and for the remainder of their adolescence.
Being a happy and productive member of society doesn’t mean not having problems; it means learning how to work through your problems in a mature and efficient manner. Your children will learn their coping mechanisms by example, and the example you’re chortling about here is the worst case scenario.
This example doesn’t demonstrate the benefits of self-reliance and personal resourcefulness – it demonstrates an attitude of external gratification, of vindictiveness and revenge, of pettiness and greed. You are showing your children that if they’re incapable of meeting their own needs their next best shot is to pursue their “entitlements” regardless of the chaos and turmoil it causes at home and within the family.
Your kids will grow up and when they do you will no longer be in control of the relationship. You’ll be along for the ride in whichever direction they choose to go. Your kids will be adults for a lot longer than they were children, and if you poison this well now you will be sorry for the rest of your life.
Considering your chosen profession and its applications in our society I am shocked that you would allow yourself to lose composure in this way.
Mark my words – going down this path will not make you (or your children) happy and it will not make your life one bit better.
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