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Participant[quote=CONCHO][quote=bearishgurl]I wouldn’t exactly call living there (in a cheaper house, to wit) the “high life,” lol![/quote]
Hahaha me neither but they seem to like it! I just can’t get over the morality of the whole thing, they’re nice people but it makes me wonder…[/quote]
Due to having no mtg, maybe they now have enough “discretionary” income to “get out of dodge” on the hottest weekends. That’s what I would do if I were in that “situation.”
Remember, every 9th Southwest Airlines RT is FREE! :=]
Participant[quote=CONCHO][quote=bearishgurl]I wouldn’t exactly call living there (in a cheaper house, to wit) the “high life,” lol![/quote]
Hahaha me neither but they seem to like it! I just can’t get over the morality of the whole thing, they’re nice people but it makes me wonder…[/quote]
Due to having no mtg, maybe they now have enough “discretionary” income to “get out of dodge” on the hottest weekends. That’s what I would do if I were in that “situation.”
Remember, every 9th Southwest Airlines RT is FREE! :=]
ParticipantOkay, ER, I take back “reasonably intelligent” and insert “well-spoken” and “eloquent” for her age. She may have just been in a particularly vulnerable mindset when she hooked up with this idiot. If you read on, she later realizes her mistake.
There’s something you should know about coastal CA. It shocked me as a young person when I moved here in the 70’s and is STILL very prevalent today. I moved from a place where the first thing a young person did after HS graduation was get their own apt, if they weren’t headed to an out-of-area college soon. Young people who grew up in coastal CA do NOT typically move out of their parents house until their parents insist on it, even if working FT. They bounce back after college and buy new cars while living with parents. Then they have car payments and often student loans. They party on the wknds with their friends. Years later, they often have nothing saved up to move out.
Why this “dependency,” you may ask. It’s simple. If the kid grew up in a nice climate w/a poss BY swimming pool, near a beach, why would they want to rent sh!thole accomodations in an area much less desirable than what they are “accustomed to?” Especially after spending 4 yrs in dorms and sharing crap rentals while attending college. Many go to college and grad school in SD and never leave home.
It’s not like your South American counterparts who are trying to become independent. For many SoCal young people, there is often no reason to become independent if their (now tired) “boomer” parents have the “ultimate” accomodations. Why not spend that rent $$ on yourself?
It’s up to the parent to push independence and self-sufficiency as most kids today do not have the incentive to do so themselves.
ParticipantOkay, ER, I take back “reasonably intelligent” and insert “well-spoken” and “eloquent” for her age. She may have just been in a particularly vulnerable mindset when she hooked up with this idiot. If you read on, she later realizes her mistake.
There’s something you should know about coastal CA. It shocked me as a young person when I moved here in the 70’s and is STILL very prevalent today. I moved from a place where the first thing a young person did after HS graduation was get their own apt, if they weren’t headed to an out-of-area college soon. Young people who grew up in coastal CA do NOT typically move out of their parents house until their parents insist on it, even if working FT. They bounce back after college and buy new cars while living with parents. Then they have car payments and often student loans. They party on the wknds with their friends. Years later, they often have nothing saved up to move out.
Why this “dependency,” you may ask. It’s simple. If the kid grew up in a nice climate w/a poss BY swimming pool, near a beach, why would they want to rent sh!thole accomodations in an area much less desirable than what they are “accustomed to?” Especially after spending 4 yrs in dorms and sharing crap rentals while attending college. Many go to college and grad school in SD and never leave home.
It’s not like your South American counterparts who are trying to become independent. For many SoCal young people, there is often no reason to become independent if their (now tired) “boomer” parents have the “ultimate” accomodations. Why not spend that rent $$ on yourself?
It’s up to the parent to push independence and self-sufficiency as most kids today do not have the incentive to do so themselves.
ParticipantOkay, ER, I take back “reasonably intelligent” and insert “well-spoken” and “eloquent” for her age. She may have just been in a particularly vulnerable mindset when she hooked up with this idiot. If you read on, she later realizes her mistake.
There’s something you should know about coastal CA. It shocked me as a young person when I moved here in the 70’s and is STILL very prevalent today. I moved from a place where the first thing a young person did after HS graduation was get their own apt, if they weren’t headed to an out-of-area college soon. Young people who grew up in coastal CA do NOT typically move out of their parents house until their parents insist on it, even if working FT. They bounce back after college and buy new cars while living with parents. Then they have car payments and often student loans. They party on the wknds with their friends. Years later, they often have nothing saved up to move out.
Why this “dependency,” you may ask. It’s simple. If the kid grew up in a nice climate w/a poss BY swimming pool, near a beach, why would they want to rent sh!thole accomodations in an area much less desirable than what they are “accustomed to?” Especially after spending 4 yrs in dorms and sharing crap rentals while attending college. Many go to college and grad school in SD and never leave home.
It’s not like your South American counterparts who are trying to become independent. For many SoCal young people, there is often no reason to become independent if their (now tired) “boomer” parents have the “ultimate” accomodations. Why not spend that rent $$ on yourself?
It’s up to the parent to push independence and self-sufficiency as most kids today do not have the incentive to do so themselves.
ParticipantOkay, ER, I take back “reasonably intelligent” and insert “well-spoken” and “eloquent” for her age. She may have just been in a particularly vulnerable mindset when she hooked up with this idiot. If you read on, she later realizes her mistake.
There’s something you should know about coastal CA. It shocked me as a young person when I moved here in the 70’s and is STILL very prevalent today. I moved from a place where the first thing a young person did after HS graduation was get their own apt, if they weren’t headed to an out-of-area college soon. Young people who grew up in coastal CA do NOT typically move out of their parents house until their parents insist on it, even if working FT. They bounce back after college and buy new cars while living with parents. Then they have car payments and often student loans. They party on the wknds with their friends. Years later, they often have nothing saved up to move out.
Why this “dependency,” you may ask. It’s simple. If the kid grew up in a nice climate w/a poss BY swimming pool, near a beach, why would they want to rent sh!thole accomodations in an area much less desirable than what they are “accustomed to?” Especially after spending 4 yrs in dorms and sharing crap rentals while attending college. Many go to college and grad school in SD and never leave home.
It’s not like your South American counterparts who are trying to become independent. For many SoCal young people, there is often no reason to become independent if their (now tired) “boomer” parents have the “ultimate” accomodations. Why not spend that rent $$ on yourself?
It’s up to the parent to push independence and self-sufficiency as most kids today do not have the incentive to do so themselves.
ParticipantOkay, ER, I take back “reasonably intelligent” and insert “well-spoken” and “eloquent” for her age. She may have just been in a particularly vulnerable mindset when she hooked up with this idiot. If you read on, she later realizes her mistake.
There’s something you should know about coastal CA. It shocked me as a young person when I moved here in the 70’s and is STILL very prevalent today. I moved from a place where the first thing a young person did after HS graduation was get their own apt, if they weren’t headed to an out-of-area college soon. Young people who grew up in coastal CA do NOT typically move out of their parents house until their parents insist on it, even if working FT. They bounce back after college and buy new cars while living with parents. Then they have car payments and often student loans. They party on the wknds with their friends. Years later, they often have nothing saved up to move out.
Why this “dependency,” you may ask. It’s simple. If the kid grew up in a nice climate w/a poss BY swimming pool, near a beach, why would they want to rent sh!thole accomodations in an area much less desirable than what they are “accustomed to?” Especially after spending 4 yrs in dorms and sharing crap rentals while attending college. Many go to college and grad school in SD and never leave home.
It’s not like your South American counterparts who are trying to become independent. For many SoCal young people, there is often no reason to become independent if their (now tired) “boomer” parents have the “ultimate” accomodations. Why not spend that rent $$ on yourself?
It’s up to the parent to push independence and self-sufficiency as most kids today do not have the incentive to do so themselves.
Participant[quote=CONCHO]Hahahaha these rent skimmers are going to have the last laugh. I know a couple in Arizona that defaulted on two homes while collecting rent on one of them and saving their mortgage payments. It took the banks a couple of years to handle the foreclosures and they banked huge money during that time. At the end, their credit was ruined but no problem, they had accumulated enough cash to purchase a beautiful home without a mortgage. They are now living the high-life mortgage free. He is about 33.
Back to work suckers![/quote]
CONCHO, it is entirely possible in the lesser-desired areas in AZ to purchase a sub $100K house (from a couple of years of “skimmed rent”), but NOT in coastal CA. More power to your “friends” who are living the “high life” in 115-deg heat! Having driven thru that lunar landscape on several occasions, I wouldn’t exactly call living there (in a cheaper house, to wit) the “high life,” lol!
Participant[quote=CONCHO]Hahahaha these rent skimmers are going to have the last laugh. I know a couple in Arizona that defaulted on two homes while collecting rent on one of them and saving their mortgage payments. It took the banks a couple of years to handle the foreclosures and they banked huge money during that time. At the end, their credit was ruined but no problem, they had accumulated enough cash to purchase a beautiful home without a mortgage. They are now living the high-life mortgage free. He is about 33.
Back to work suckers![/quote]
CONCHO, it is entirely possible in the lesser-desired areas in AZ to purchase a sub $100K house (from a couple of years of “skimmed rent”), but NOT in coastal CA. More power to your “friends” who are living the “high life” in 115-deg heat! Having driven thru that lunar landscape on several occasions, I wouldn’t exactly call living there (in a cheaper house, to wit) the “high life,” lol!
Participant[quote=CONCHO]Hahahaha these rent skimmers are going to have the last laugh. I know a couple in Arizona that defaulted on two homes while collecting rent on one of them and saving their mortgage payments. It took the banks a couple of years to handle the foreclosures and they banked huge money during that time. At the end, their credit was ruined but no problem, they had accumulated enough cash to purchase a beautiful home without a mortgage. They are now living the high-life mortgage free. He is about 33.
Back to work suckers![/quote]
CONCHO, it is entirely possible in the lesser-desired areas in AZ to purchase a sub $100K house (from a couple of years of “skimmed rent”), but NOT in coastal CA. More power to your “friends” who are living the “high life” in 115-deg heat! Having driven thru that lunar landscape on several occasions, I wouldn’t exactly call living there (in a cheaper house, to wit) the “high life,” lol!
Participant[quote=CONCHO]Hahahaha these rent skimmers are going to have the last laugh. I know a couple in Arizona that defaulted on two homes while collecting rent on one of them and saving their mortgage payments. It took the banks a couple of years to handle the foreclosures and they banked huge money during that time. At the end, their credit was ruined but no problem, they had accumulated enough cash to purchase a beautiful home without a mortgage. They are now living the high-life mortgage free. He is about 33.
Back to work suckers![/quote]
CONCHO, it is entirely possible in the lesser-desired areas in AZ to purchase a sub $100K house (from a couple of years of “skimmed rent”), but NOT in coastal CA. More power to your “friends” who are living the “high life” in 115-deg heat! Having driven thru that lunar landscape on several occasions, I wouldn’t exactly call living there (in a cheaper house, to wit) the “high life,” lol!
Participant[quote=CONCHO]Hahahaha these rent skimmers are going to have the last laugh. I know a couple in Arizona that defaulted on two homes while collecting rent on one of them and saving their mortgage payments. It took the banks a couple of years to handle the foreclosures and they banked huge money during that time. At the end, their credit was ruined but no problem, they had accumulated enough cash to purchase a beautiful home without a mortgage. They are now living the high-life mortgage free. He is about 33.
Back to work suckers![/quote]
CONCHO, it is entirely possible in the lesser-desired areas in AZ to purchase a sub $100K house (from a couple of years of “skimmed rent”), but NOT in coastal CA. More power to your “friends” who are living the “high life” in 115-deg heat! Having driven thru that lunar landscape on several occasions, I wouldn’t exactly call living there (in a cheaper house, to wit) the “high life,” lol!
Participant[quote=patb]
http://finance.yahoo.com/family-home/article/112801/fight-to-rejoin-middle-class-usnews/
…[/quote]What was your lowest moment?
Going through a breakup with my fiance. It ended badly with me waiting for him at a train station, abandoned in the snow in a blizzard. We met on Twitter. He was my first follower. He lived in Scotland and grew up privileged. He had a really good job and got laid off. He couldn’t support the house he was living in and they finally foreclosed. And he wasn’t close with his family. So he put everything into a suitcase and ended up homeless. Then he started a website about homeless people, and discovered my blog.
We visited each other and made plans to get married. I scraped up enough money to visit him in Scotland — surprise him — over Christmas in 2009. I got a surprise of my own. There was a woman staying in his house. I was shocked. He said, “It’s not what it looks like, I’ll get rid of her, but meanwhile, you can’t stay here.” So I stayed in a little hotel in town, spent all my money, and after a couple of days, they both packed their bags and left. The only contact with him since then was a two-line email saying, basically, “I can’t explain.”
(emphasis added)
She sounds like a reasonably intelligent girl with a somewhat codependent personality. She apparently lost most of her savings she needed for survival on the above “escapade.” Had she had a better support system (family/friends), she probably wouldn’t have gotten sucked into this mistake. Typical “internet” relationship where at least one party is trolling for online (1-900) sex/emotional affair but had no intention of ever meeting their “subject” and is otherwise not available. These are more common than not.
She’s young enough to recover from this. I wish her well.
Participant[quote=patb]
http://finance.yahoo.com/family-home/article/112801/fight-to-rejoin-middle-class-usnews/
…[/quote]What was your lowest moment?
Going through a breakup with my fiance. It ended badly with me waiting for him at a train station, abandoned in the snow in a blizzard. We met on Twitter. He was my first follower. He lived in Scotland and grew up privileged. He had a really good job and got laid off. He couldn’t support the house he was living in and they finally foreclosed. And he wasn’t close with his family. So he put everything into a suitcase and ended up homeless. Then he started a website about homeless people, and discovered my blog.
We visited each other and made plans to get married. I scraped up enough money to visit him in Scotland — surprise him — over Christmas in 2009. I got a surprise of my own. There was a woman staying in his house. I was shocked. He said, “It’s not what it looks like, I’ll get rid of her, but meanwhile, you can’t stay here.” So I stayed in a little hotel in town, spent all my money, and after a couple of days, they both packed their bags and left. The only contact with him since then was a two-line email saying, basically, “I can’t explain.”
(emphasis added)
She sounds like a reasonably intelligent girl with a somewhat codependent personality. She apparently lost most of her savings she needed for survival on the above “escapade.” Had she had a better support system (family/friends), she probably wouldn’t have gotten sucked into this mistake. Typical “internet” relationship where at least one party is trolling for online (1-900) sex/emotional affair but had no intention of ever meeting their “subject” and is otherwise not available. These are more common than not.
She’s young enough to recover from this. I wish her well.
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