The new smart financial move is walking away

[an]

[quote=CA renter]
BTW, did you notice how most of the couples spoke very highly of the couples’ retreats? Basically, that’s counseling, without the stigma. ;)[/quote]
I agree, counseling/therapy has a stigma and retreat does not. I guess in my eyes, retreat tend to have people who are proactively working on their marriage while therapy is where you go to when it’s already broken and need fixing. Kind of like physical therapy vs exercising. Both are basically the same, but one you do when you’re already broken while the other, you do to keep yourself from being broken or improve upon yourself.

[outtamojo]

I find the drive to live a care-free life with no obligations too restrictive.

[outtamojo]

I find the drive to live a care-free life with no obligations too restrictive.

[outtamojo]

I find the drive to live a care-free life with no obligations too restrictive.

[outtamojo]

I find the drive to live a care-free life with no obligations too restrictive.

[outtamojo]

I find the drive to live a care-free life with no obligations too restrictive.

[an]

[quote=briansd1]I agree with Dave.

In the institution of marriage there are too many ties that bind. It’s very hard to sever those ties without suffering dire consequences. So people will remain together just because of a lack of alternatives.

For example, if you don’t like your job, you can quit. But many stay with jobs they hate their whole lives. Why? Because quitting means no more income and other dire consequences.

In the military, once you commit to a certain time, you can’t quit no matter what. The consequences of quitting are grave. So you stay on and eventually your claim pride in service and happiness.

I think that the French idea of cohabitation is more in line with free-will and happiness.

Why do you need marriage to obligate you to one another? Isn’t love stronger than any piece of paper? Apparently not.

To me, happiness is what YOU want to do at any point in time. Sacrificing yourself for others or a greater cause is very lofty. In the end, you may reflect back and find happiness but you may actually suffer during.[/quote]
That’s such a cop-out. If it’s so grave, then how come 50% of American do it and many do it several times? It’s not just the institution of marriage that has many ties that bind. That’s just life. Nothing in life stand in isolation. Everything is connected in some way.

[an]

[quote=briansd1]I agree with Dave.

In the institution of marriage there are too many ties that bind. It’s very hard to sever those ties without suffering dire consequences. So people will remain together just because of a lack of alternatives.

For example, if you don’t like your job, you can quit. But many stay with jobs they hate their whole lives. Why? Because quitting means no more income and other dire consequences.

In the military, once you commit to a certain time, you can’t quit no matter what. The consequences of quitting are grave. So you stay on and eventually your claim pride in service and happiness.

I think that the French idea of cohabitation is more in line with free-will and happiness.

Why do you need marriage to obligate you to one another? Isn’t love stronger than any piece of paper? Apparently not.

To me, happiness is what YOU want to do at any point in time. Sacrificing yourself for others or a greater cause is very lofty. In the end, you may reflect back and find happiness but you may actually suffer during.[/quote]
That’s such a cop-out. If it’s so grave, then how come 50% of American do it and many do it several times? It’s not just the institution of marriage that has many ties that bind. That’s just life. Nothing in life stand in isolation. Everything is connected in some way.

[an]

[quote=briansd1]I agree with Dave.

In the institution of marriage there are too many ties that bind. It’s very hard to sever those ties without suffering dire consequences. So people will remain together just because of a lack of alternatives.

For example, if you don’t like your job, you can quit. But many stay with jobs they hate their whole lives. Why? Because quitting means no more income and other dire consequences.

In the military, once you commit to a certain time, you can’t quit no matter what. The consequences of quitting are grave. So you stay on and eventually your claim pride in service and happiness.

I think that the French idea of cohabitation is more in line with free-will and happiness.

Why do you need marriage to obligate you to one another? Isn’t love stronger than any piece of paper? Apparently not.

To me, happiness is what YOU want to do at any point in time. Sacrificing yourself for others or a greater cause is very lofty. In the end, you may reflect back and find happiness but you may actually suffer during.[/quote]
That’s such a cop-out. If it’s so grave, then how come 50% of American do it and many do it several times? It’s not just the institution of marriage that has many ties that bind. That’s just life. Nothing in life stand in isolation. Everything is connected in some way.

[an]

[quote=briansd1]I agree with Dave.

In the institution of marriage there are too many ties that bind. It’s very hard to sever those ties without suffering dire consequences. So people will remain together just because of a lack of alternatives.

For example, if you don’t like your job, you can quit. But many stay with jobs they hate their whole lives. Why? Because quitting means no more income and other dire consequences.

In the military, once you commit to a certain time, you can’t quit no matter what. The consequences of quitting are grave. So you stay on and eventually your claim pride in service and happiness.

I think that the French idea of cohabitation is more in line with free-will and happiness.

Why do you need marriage to obligate you to one another? Isn’t love stronger than any piece of paper? Apparently not.

To me, happiness is what YOU want to do at any point in time. Sacrificing yourself for others or a greater cause is very lofty. In the end, you may reflect back and find happiness but you may actually suffer during.[/quote]
That’s such a cop-out. If it’s so grave, then how come 50% of American do it and many do it several times? It’s not just the institution of marriage that has many ties that bind. That’s just life. Nothing in life stand in isolation. Everything is connected in some way.

[an]

[quote=briansd1]I agree with Dave.

In the institution of marriage there are too many ties that bind. It’s very hard to sever those ties without suffering dire consequences. So people will remain together just because of a lack of alternatives.

For example, if you don’t like your job, you can quit. But many stay with jobs they hate their whole lives. Why? Because quitting means no more income and other dire consequences.

In the military, once you commit to a certain time, you can’t quit no matter what. The consequences of quitting are grave. So you stay on and eventually your claim pride in service and happiness.

I think that the French idea of cohabitation is more in line with free-will and happiness.

Why do you need marriage to obligate you to one another? Isn’t love stronger than any piece of paper? Apparently not.

To me, happiness is what YOU want to do at any point in time. Sacrificing yourself for others or a greater cause is very lofty. In the end, you may reflect back and find happiness but you may actually suffer during.[/quote]
That’s such a cop-out. If it’s so grave, then how come 50% of American do it and many do it several times? It’s not just the institution of marriage that has many ties that bind. That’s just life. Nothing in life stand in isolation. Everything is connected in some way.

[outtamojo]

[quote=briansd1]

To me, happiness is what YOU want to do at any point in time. Sacrificing yourself for others or a greater cause is very lofty. In the end, you may reflect back and find happiness but you may actually suffer during.[/quote]

…and sometimes, what I want to do, is make someone ELSE happy- cause it makes ME happy : )

[outtamojo]

[quote=briansd1]

To me, happiness is what YOU want to do at any point in time. Sacrificing yourself for others or a greater cause is very lofty. In the end, you may reflect back and find happiness but you may actually suffer during.[/quote]

…and sometimes, what I want to do, is make someone ELSE happy- cause it makes ME happy : )

[outtamojo]

[quote=briansd1]

To me, happiness is what YOU want to do at any point in time. Sacrificing yourself for others or a greater cause is very lofty. In the end, you may reflect back and find happiness but you may actually suffer during.[/quote]

…and sometimes, what I want to do, is make someone ELSE happy- cause it makes ME happy : )

[outtamojo]

[quote=briansd1]

To me, happiness is what YOU want to do at any point in time. Sacrificing yourself for others or a greater cause is very lofty. In the end, you may reflect back and find happiness but you may actually suffer during.[/quote]

…and sometimes, what I want to do, is make someone ELSE happy- cause it makes ME happy : )

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