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[scaredyclassic]

why do married people enjoy weddings so much?

there’s a certain feeling that overwhelms married couples when they attend weddings, even if they despise each other at that time.

need a word for that.

[sdrealtor]

Empathy

[scaredyclassic]

That’s part of it. But there’s more going on.

Hope, nostalgia
Beginnings
Clean slates.
Fear for them.

More shit too.

I tried to find the opposite of schadenfreude and one option was mitgefuhl. (Compassion, condolences) but not sure that’ll work. May need a whole new word.

[davelj]

[quote=sdrealtor]The passage of time is what allows for those interventions.[/quote]
Agreed but that’s not what you wrote so I assume it’s not what you meant. Without the intervention the passage of time alone is helpful but generally not sufficient (over any reasonable time horizon). [See: the Great Depression and Japan 1989-present.] Interestingly, in the case of Japan, despite decades of massive ongoing intervention, the Nikkei is still down 25% from it’s peak… in 1989. But what’s 32 years between friends…

[quote=sdrealtor]
Saying I’ve been totally wrong would’ve been enough;)[/quote]
That’s what I said in my previous post, verbatim. This last post was in response to your “passage of time” comment.

Just to clarify, of course.

[scaredyclassic]

Weddings, for married spectators, produce a feeling related in some respect to that of horror films. You know the actors are in grave danger.

You know something bad will happen at some point.

The actors are blithely unaware of any risk.

you want to yell at them, warn them, but the bride and groom are as unable to hear as celluloid images on a screen

And those vows. Oy

Why else would the vows make you promise to love honor and obey, before witnesses, unless the audience knows that at some point you will be unable to do just that

But it’s a good kind of danger.

Making crazy promises, binding future you, a self you cannot know, or perhaps even imagine can be a romantic, tragic and even intelligent thing to do.

a buy and hold strategy, with a reasonably good fund, or adequate mate, pays dividends. Though downturns are sickening, hold on …too much trading virtually guarantees failure.

I’m available to officiate weddings, if you need a quirky officiant. Reasonable fees. No guarantee the bride won’t despise me. Someday she’ll get it.

[sdrealtor]

[quote=davelj][quote=sdrealtor]The passage of time is what allows for those interventions.[/quote]
Agreed but that’s not what you wrote so I assume it’s not what you meant. Without the intervention the passage of time alone is helpful but generally not sufficient (over any reasonable time horizon). [See: the Great Depression and Japan 1989-present.] Interestingly, in the case of Japan, despite decades of massive ongoing intervention, the Nikkei is still down 25% from it’s peak… in 1989. But what’s 32 years between friends…

[quote=sdrealtor]
Saying I’ve been totally wrong would’ve been enough;)[/quote]
That’s what I said in my previous post, verbatim. This last post was in response to your “passage of time” comment.

Just to clarify, of course.[/quote]

I’ve written on this many times here. More than I can count over many many years. Doomsayers all too often look at things with a myopic short term view. Things which seem impossible in the here and now are quite possible given the passage of time. Time for interventions, time for discounted dollars, higher wages/inflation, lower interest rates and more.

As for the “totally wrong” you followed it with a litany of excuses. You were wrong, dead wrong, not close by a long shot. I don’t understand why people can’t just take their lumps and move on. We all make mistakes

[davelj]

[quote=sdrealtor]
As for the “totally wrong” you followed it with a litany of excuses. You were wrong, dead wrong, not close by a long shot. I don’t understand why people can’t just take their lumps and move on. We all make mistakes[/quote]

Mistakes unaccompanied by some form of explanation – good or bad – are pretty much nonexistant. Reasons, excuses, tomatoes, tomahtoes… where you stand generally depends upon where you sit.

Indeed, we all make mistakes. I’m sure, for example, you’ve made many mistakes over the last 15 years… could you point to a single one you’ve acknowledged here? Just curious… enquiring minds and all. You raised the issue after all.

[Coronita]

See futures are up because I sold some things yesterday. You want me to buy some things today to crash it again?

[sdrealtor]

[quote=davelj][quote=sdrealtor]
As for the “totally wrong” you followed it with a litany of excuses. You were wrong, dead wrong, not close by a long shot. I don’t understand why people can’t just take their lumps and move on. We all make mistakes[/quote]

Mistakes unaccompanied by some form of explanation – good or bad – are pretty much nonexistant. Reasons, excuses, tomatoes, tomahtoes… where you stand generally depends upon where you sit.

Indeed, we all make mistakes. I’m sure, for example, you’ve made many mistakes over the last 15 years… could you point to a single one you’ve acknowledged here? Just curious… enquiring minds and all. You raised the issue after all.[/quote]

Sure! I’ve admitted to not foreseeing the rise in real estate over the last few years many times. It caught me completely off guard

Heck just this past weekend I thought why not take a drive up north to pick up some wine, catch a concert, grab a drink with a friend and drive back the next day. Five hundred miles each way. I’m too old for that. Now I’ve got a cyst in my left knee the size of a marble I’m gonna need to get cut out. I’m such a dumbass sometimes

[davelj]

[quote=sdrealtor]
Sure! I’ve admitted to not foreseeing the rise in real estate over the last few years many times. It caught me completely off guard [/quote]

Your admission of a “mistake” is that your previous clients/buyers have done much better than you thought they would do with respect to their purchases? I’m not the last word, obviously, but I’m not certain that rises to the level of a material mistake. I’ve managed partnerships that did far better than I thought they would… but I didn’t classify my underestimation as a mistake (although we generally exited too soon, which could be viewed as mistakes, I suppose). Now, if you didn’t see the oughties bubble bursting, that would’ve been a mistake… but I can’t remember where individual posters stood on that issue… too long ago.

[quote=sdrealtor]
Heck just this past weekend I thought why not take a drive up north to pick up some wine, catch a concert, grab a drink with a friend and drive back the next day. Five hundred miles each way. I’m too old for that. Now I’ve got a cyst in my left knee the size of a marble I’m gonna need to get cut out. I’m such a dumbass sometimes[/quote]

I’m not sure this is a mistake that rises to the level of being worth mentioning, but… reasonable people can disagree. (I forgot my keys in the house the other day… had to go back and get them. Almost didn’t forgive myself.)

Five hundred miles… each way… that is one hell of a drive, though. I’m surprised that driving – even a long distance – would result in a cyst in your left knee (of all places), but… I’m no doctor and stranger things have happened. Good luck with the surgery.

[sdrealtor]

Well that’s one way of looking at it but not the right way. I talked some friends out of buying and others into selling. So that’s not a case of them doing much better but rather missing out on windfall profits.

As for the cyst, it wasn’t there before it was there after. We’ll see after I get in to see ortho what’s necessary. It was a great show I thoroughly enjoyed but next time I’ll fly if I’m doing a one day turn around.

[svelte]

[quote=scaredyclassic]That’s part of it. But there’s more going on.

Hope, nostalgia
Beginnings
Clean slates.
Fear for them.

More shit too.

I tried to find the opposite of schadenfreude and one option was mitgefuhl. (Compassion, condolences) but not sure that’ll work. May need a whole new word.[/quote]

weddings confuse me. So much stupid ritual. I like those who think outside the box and do it their way, do it different. Not just the same old rituals because everyone else does them.

I’m also usually totally mystified on why the bride and groom picked each other. Very few times do I think “now there’s a great match!”.

We sort of psuedo-eloped for ours and so there are very few photos of it. I’ve dug them out recently and have been cleaning them up digitally…found a couple of good shots I didn’t know we had. Looking at it from almost a third party perspective now since so much time has passed, I bet people thought we were an odd couple too. The geek and the beauty. I sure looked geeky and had no idea that I looked that way.

I’m not sure I’m happy when I go to weddings. Amused. Curious. Mystified. Hopeful for them. Sometimes they enlist me as a second photographer because I’m great at capturing human spontaneous moments…they let the official photographer capture the ritualistic poses filled with stiff postures and fake smiles.

[scaredyclassic]

People in love getting married are flying high on hormonal brain craziness such that the drug equivalent is a cocktail of 10 mg oxycontintin, 100 micrograms LSD, .5 grams cocaine and one (1) Cosmopolitan.

No small wonder the matches seem odd.

[flyer]

Sure, we all make mistakes, and, occasionally, learn from them, but marriage and real estate investment were two of the best decisions I ever made–and still going strong after 30+ years–the magnitude of which I could never have initially foreseen. Sometimes you just have to go with the moment.

[scaredyclassic]

Luck.

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