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May 27, 2011 at 10:35 AM #700583May 27, 2011 at 11:04 AM #699406bearishgurlParticipant
Okay, ER, I take back “reasonably intelligent” and insert “well-spoken” and “eloquent” for her age. She may have just been in a particularly vulnerable mindset when she hooked up with this idiot. If you read on, she later realizes her mistake.
There’s something you should know about coastal CA. It shocked me as a young person when I moved here in the 70’s and is STILL very prevalent today. I moved from a place where the first thing a young person did after HS graduation was get their own apt, if they weren’t headed to an out-of-area college soon. Young people who grew up in coastal CA do NOT typically move out of their parents house until their parents insist on it, even if working FT. They bounce back after college and buy new cars while living with parents. Then they have car payments and often student loans. They party on the wknds with their friends. Years later, they often have nothing saved up to move out.
Why this “dependency,” you may ask. It’s simple. If the kid grew up in a nice climate w/a poss BY swimming pool, near a beach, why would they want to rent sh!thole accomodations in an area much less desirable than what they are “accustomed to?” Especially after spending 4 yrs in dorms and sharing crap rentals while attending college. Many go to college and grad school in SD and never leave home.
It’s not like your South American counterparts who are trying to become independent. For many SoCal young people, there is often no reason to become independent if their (now tired) “boomer” parents have the “ultimate” accomodations. Why not spend that rent $$ on yourself?
It’s up to the parent to push independence and self-sufficiency as most kids today do not have the incentive to do so themselves.
May 27, 2011 at 11:04 AM #699502bearishgurlParticipantOkay, ER, I take back “reasonably intelligent” and insert “well-spoken” and “eloquent” for her age. She may have just been in a particularly vulnerable mindset when she hooked up with this idiot. If you read on, she later realizes her mistake.
There’s something you should know about coastal CA. It shocked me as a young person when I moved here in the 70’s and is STILL very prevalent today. I moved from a place where the first thing a young person did after HS graduation was get their own apt, if they weren’t headed to an out-of-area college soon. Young people who grew up in coastal CA do NOT typically move out of their parents house until their parents insist on it, even if working FT. They bounce back after college and buy new cars while living with parents. Then they have car payments and often student loans. They party on the wknds with their friends. Years later, they often have nothing saved up to move out.
Why this “dependency,” you may ask. It’s simple. If the kid grew up in a nice climate w/a poss BY swimming pool, near a beach, why would they want to rent sh!thole accomodations in an area much less desirable than what they are “accustomed to?” Especially after spending 4 yrs in dorms and sharing crap rentals while attending college. Many go to college and grad school in SD and never leave home.
It’s not like your South American counterparts who are trying to become independent. For many SoCal young people, there is often no reason to become independent if their (now tired) “boomer” parents have the “ultimate” accomodations. Why not spend that rent $$ on yourself?
It’s up to the parent to push independence and self-sufficiency as most kids today do not have the incentive to do so themselves.
May 27, 2011 at 11:04 AM #700086bearishgurlParticipantOkay, ER, I take back “reasonably intelligent” and insert “well-spoken” and “eloquent” for her age. She may have just been in a particularly vulnerable mindset when she hooked up with this idiot. If you read on, she later realizes her mistake.
There’s something you should know about coastal CA. It shocked me as a young person when I moved here in the 70’s and is STILL very prevalent today. I moved from a place where the first thing a young person did after HS graduation was get their own apt, if they weren’t headed to an out-of-area college soon. Young people who grew up in coastal CA do NOT typically move out of their parents house until their parents insist on it, even if working FT. They bounce back after college and buy new cars while living with parents. Then they have car payments and often student loans. They party on the wknds with their friends. Years later, they often have nothing saved up to move out.
Why this “dependency,” you may ask. It’s simple. If the kid grew up in a nice climate w/a poss BY swimming pool, near a beach, why would they want to rent sh!thole accomodations in an area much less desirable than what they are “accustomed to?” Especially after spending 4 yrs in dorms and sharing crap rentals while attending college. Many go to college and grad school in SD and never leave home.
It’s not like your South American counterparts who are trying to become independent. For many SoCal young people, there is often no reason to become independent if their (now tired) “boomer” parents have the “ultimate” accomodations. Why not spend that rent $$ on yourself?
It’s up to the parent to push independence and self-sufficiency as most kids today do not have the incentive to do so themselves.
May 27, 2011 at 11:04 AM #700233bearishgurlParticipantOkay, ER, I take back “reasonably intelligent” and insert “well-spoken” and “eloquent” for her age. She may have just been in a particularly vulnerable mindset when she hooked up with this idiot. If you read on, she later realizes her mistake.
There’s something you should know about coastal CA. It shocked me as a young person when I moved here in the 70’s and is STILL very prevalent today. I moved from a place where the first thing a young person did after HS graduation was get their own apt, if they weren’t headed to an out-of-area college soon. Young people who grew up in coastal CA do NOT typically move out of their parents house until their parents insist on it, even if working FT. They bounce back after college and buy new cars while living with parents. Then they have car payments and often student loans. They party on the wknds with their friends. Years later, they often have nothing saved up to move out.
Why this “dependency,” you may ask. It’s simple. If the kid grew up in a nice climate w/a poss BY swimming pool, near a beach, why would they want to rent sh!thole accomodations in an area much less desirable than what they are “accustomed to?” Especially after spending 4 yrs in dorms and sharing crap rentals while attending college. Many go to college and grad school in SD and never leave home.
It’s not like your South American counterparts who are trying to become independent. For many SoCal young people, there is often no reason to become independent if their (now tired) “boomer” parents have the “ultimate” accomodations. Why not spend that rent $$ on yourself?
It’s up to the parent to push independence and self-sufficiency as most kids today do not have the incentive to do so themselves.
May 27, 2011 at 11:04 AM #700588bearishgurlParticipantOkay, ER, I take back “reasonably intelligent” and insert “well-spoken” and “eloquent” for her age. She may have just been in a particularly vulnerable mindset when she hooked up with this idiot. If you read on, she later realizes her mistake.
There’s something you should know about coastal CA. It shocked me as a young person when I moved here in the 70’s and is STILL very prevalent today. I moved from a place where the first thing a young person did after HS graduation was get their own apt, if they weren’t headed to an out-of-area college soon. Young people who grew up in coastal CA do NOT typically move out of their parents house until their parents insist on it, even if working FT. They bounce back after college and buy new cars while living with parents. Then they have car payments and often student loans. They party on the wknds with their friends. Years later, they often have nothing saved up to move out.
Why this “dependency,” you may ask. It’s simple. If the kid grew up in a nice climate w/a poss BY swimming pool, near a beach, why would they want to rent sh!thole accomodations in an area much less desirable than what they are “accustomed to?” Especially after spending 4 yrs in dorms and sharing crap rentals while attending college. Many go to college and grad school in SD and never leave home.
It’s not like your South American counterparts who are trying to become independent. For many SoCal young people, there is often no reason to become independent if their (now tired) “boomer” parents have the “ultimate” accomodations. Why not spend that rent $$ on yourself?
It’s up to the parent to push independence and self-sufficiency as most kids today do not have the incentive to do so themselves.
May 27, 2011 at 3:50 PM #699471UCGalParticipantI agree w early retirement… there are a lot of kids who aren’t working or going to school and basically need, IMO, a kick in the pants to stop sponging. I have a coworker who can’t figure out how to motivate his daughter into getting a job or getting serious about college. His wife refuss to consider the tough love approach, so they’re enabling her less than productive lifestyle.
And BG – I grew up in coastal San Diego in the 70s… I wasn’t ready for college when I graduated high school… but I got a job and moved out 2 weeks after my 18th birthday… I think it’s more of a generational thing than a geographical thing that is keeping kids at home these days. I see kids lingering at home well into their 20’s back east too.
May 27, 2011 at 3:50 PM #699567UCGalParticipantI agree w early retirement… there are a lot of kids who aren’t working or going to school and basically need, IMO, a kick in the pants to stop sponging. I have a coworker who can’t figure out how to motivate his daughter into getting a job or getting serious about college. His wife refuss to consider the tough love approach, so they’re enabling her less than productive lifestyle.
And BG – I grew up in coastal San Diego in the 70s… I wasn’t ready for college when I graduated high school… but I got a job and moved out 2 weeks after my 18th birthday… I think it’s more of a generational thing than a geographical thing that is keeping kids at home these days. I see kids lingering at home well into their 20’s back east too.
May 27, 2011 at 3:50 PM #700150UCGalParticipantI agree w early retirement… there are a lot of kids who aren’t working or going to school and basically need, IMO, a kick in the pants to stop sponging. I have a coworker who can’t figure out how to motivate his daughter into getting a job or getting serious about college. His wife refuss to consider the tough love approach, so they’re enabling her less than productive lifestyle.
And BG – I grew up in coastal San Diego in the 70s… I wasn’t ready for college when I graduated high school… but I got a job and moved out 2 weeks after my 18th birthday… I think it’s more of a generational thing than a geographical thing that is keeping kids at home these days. I see kids lingering at home well into their 20’s back east too.
May 27, 2011 at 3:50 PM #700298UCGalParticipantI agree w early retirement… there are a lot of kids who aren’t working or going to school and basically need, IMO, a kick in the pants to stop sponging. I have a coworker who can’t figure out how to motivate his daughter into getting a job or getting serious about college. His wife refuss to consider the tough love approach, so they’re enabling her less than productive lifestyle.
And BG – I grew up in coastal San Diego in the 70s… I wasn’t ready for college when I graduated high school… but I got a job and moved out 2 weeks after my 18th birthday… I think it’s more of a generational thing than a geographical thing that is keeping kids at home these days. I see kids lingering at home well into their 20’s back east too.
May 27, 2011 at 3:50 PM #700653UCGalParticipantI agree w early retirement… there are a lot of kids who aren’t working or going to school and basically need, IMO, a kick in the pants to stop sponging. I have a coworker who can’t figure out how to motivate his daughter into getting a job or getting serious about college. His wife refuss to consider the tough love approach, so they’re enabling her less than productive lifestyle.
And BG – I grew up in coastal San Diego in the 70s… I wasn’t ready for college when I graduated high school… but I got a job and moved out 2 weeks after my 18th birthday… I think it’s more of a generational thing than a geographical thing that is keeping kids at home these days. I see kids lingering at home well into their 20’s back east too.
May 27, 2011 at 4:27 PM #699476briansd1GuestI think that it could be a cost-of-housing-as-a-proportion-of-income kinda thing.
In areas or countries where housing consumes a large portion of income, kids will stay at home longer into adulthood out of necessity.
May 27, 2011 at 4:27 PM #699572briansd1GuestI think that it could be a cost-of-housing-as-a-proportion-of-income kinda thing.
In areas or countries where housing consumes a large portion of income, kids will stay at home longer into adulthood out of necessity.
May 27, 2011 at 4:27 PM #700155briansd1GuestI think that it could be a cost-of-housing-as-a-proportion-of-income kinda thing.
In areas or countries where housing consumes a large portion of income, kids will stay at home longer into adulthood out of necessity.
May 27, 2011 at 4:27 PM #700303briansd1GuestI think that it could be a cost-of-housing-as-a-proportion-of-income kinda thing.
In areas or countries where housing consumes a large portion of income, kids will stay at home longer into adulthood out of necessity.
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