OT: How much baggage will you accept?

[FlyerInHi]

After the wedding-on-a-budget stories, I think people would be embarrassed to declare they spent big.

There’s tradition and most brides do want to a big wedding, I believe. And parents want them too. Anyone spent $100k or more?

I personally like the idea of a reception with 2 dozens or so close friends. That’s enough.

[flyer]

Kev, I think you’ve probably learned from this thread that there is no “one size fits all” when it comes to relationships, weddings, marriage, and life in general.

What one person considers “great” would be of little interest to another person, because we each define our “perfect” or “close to perfect” situation differently–and that’s a good thing.

IMO, as long as each of us is happy with the choices we make, and living the lives WE want to live–that’s all that really matters–so go for it, and enjoy!!

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=flyer]Kev, I think you’ve probably learned from this thread that there is no “one size fits all” when it comes to relationships, weddings, marriage, and life in general.

What one person considers “great” would be of little interest to another person, because we each define our “perfect” or “close to perfect” situation differently–and that’s a good thing.

IMO, as long as each of us is happy with the choices we make, and living the lives WE want to live–that’s all that really matters–so go for it, and enjoy!![/quote]

Marry in haste repent at leisure.

[njtosd]

[quote=svelte][quote=CA renter][quote=svelte][quote=flyer]Not all beautiful women are vacuous gold diggers, just as not all handsome men are shallow trophy wife collectors, and I have to agree, to each his/her own when choosing a partner for all of the right
reasons–love, happiness, achieving life goals, etc., etc.

The wedding, the ring, the fabulous honeymoon, the great house, and all of the “stuff” are nice, and we’ve all been there, but, IMO, what makes the relationship lasting and beautiful is the deeper bond that’s been forged by things that money can’t buy.[/quote]

Agree with every word.

That’s why alarm bells would go off if I even caught a whiff of a potential spouse that was marrying me for the money. To those who are together for the $$, that’s A-OK with me as long as it works for them. But that’s not what I want my relationships built upon.[/quote]

Should alarm bells go off when a woman catches a whiff of a potential suitor/spouse wanting her for her beauty? (I would say yes.)

It goes both ways.[/quote]

Hmmm – that’s a sexist thought!

By using the pronoun “she” and the phrase “it goes both ways”, you’re implying that my response was for women marrying men for money and not men marrying women for money. It was not – my sentences were gender neutral on purpose.

If your sentence was rephrased “should alarm bells go off when someone catches a whiff of a potential spouse wanting them for their beauty? (I would say yes)”, then I would agree that one should run if a suitor was after them only for their beauty. Keyword “only”.

The beauty thing is a slippery slope. You have to be physically attracted to your spouse for it to work – so yeah I partly married for beauty. But beauty alone would not have been enough for me to marry her. Not even close.

She had a nice dowry too.

(j/k)[/quote]

Wait, your sentence was talking about someone marrying you for your money. Unless you were open to marrying a man or a woman, you weren’t being gender neutral.

What if someone said they married their spouse partly for the money?

[CA renter]

[quote=UCGal][quote=CA renter]Definitely look Irish (though I know you’re Italian). :)[/quote]
I’m married to an Italian…. according to 23andMe I’m 70% British/scottish/Irish. According to family history, I’m 1/8th German.[/quote]

Ah, now that makes sense! 🙂

It’s amazing to see how much information you can get from 23andme’s genetic testing.

[njtosd]

[quote=scaredyclassic]Prostitutes?

Please buy and read PAYING FOR IT by Chester brown. Autobiographical very thoughtful comic strip about a guy who gives up on relatio in ships and buys sex.[/quote]

Freakonomics has a great riff on that, too, indicating that demand for prostitutes has declined with increasing supply of non-committed sexual relationships, so prices have gone down.

[njtosd]

[quote=FlyerInHi]After the wedding-on-a-budget stories, I think people would be embarrassed to declare they spent big.

There’s tradition and most brides do want to a big wedding, I believe. And parents want them too. Anyone spent $100k or more?

I personally like the idea of a reception with 2 dozens or so close friends. That’s enough.[/quote]

I’m not embarrassed. I loved my wedding – it was big and fun and we had to pay the band to stay for an extra hour and a half because the dance floor was still full. We got married at Holy Name Cathedral in Chicago (complete with random street person who came in and yelled “I have a bomb” – luckily it was before 9/11.) It wasn’t deliberately expensive, but it was downtown and my family has a tradition of inviting all the aunts, uncles, cousins, their families, etc. I wouldn’t have changed anything. Almost 17 years, three kids and two cross country moves later, I’m still happy . . . and I have great memories. Not to say that there is no other way to do it, but it was a blast.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=njtosd][quote=scaredyclassic]Prostitutes?

Please buy and read PAYING FOR IT by Chester brown. Autobiographical very thoughtful comic strip about a guy who gives up on relatio in ships and buys sex.[/quote]

Freakonomics has a great riff on that, too, indicating that demand for prostitutes has declined with increasing supply of non-committed sexual relationships, so prices have gone down.[/quote]

Comic strip is really earnest and sincere and thoughtprovoking. Really works through the numbers the stigma and the feelings

[CDMA ENG]

Today is my fourth anniversary… and my son is 3 months old today as well…

Fuck the money! The ROI is incredible no matter how much I spent on my wedding.

CE

[NotCranky]

The making a family stage is the easiest as far as maintaining a pair bond. Kids are consciousness altering for the better even it they do poop their diapers all the time .

Loyalty is an interesting topic and thanks to CaRenter I am considering the possibility of getting kicked to the curb when the kids are out of the house in about 10 years. Never really trust anyone. Thanks CaRenter! You have spoken well for your gender.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=CDMA ENG]Today is my fourth anniversary… and my son is 3 months old today as well…

Fuck the money! The ROI is incredible no matter how much I spent on my wedding.

CE[/quote]

Let’s not get crazy.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=Blogstar]The making a family stage is the easiest as far as maintaining a pair bond. Kids are consciousness altering for the better even it they do poop their diapers all the time .

Loyalty is an interesting topic and thanks to CaRenter I am considering the possibility of getting kicked to the curb when the kids are out of the house in about 10 years. Never really trust anyone. Thanks CaRenter! You have spoken well for your gender.[/quote]

Once the kids are a little older the males inadequacy comes into better focus again.

[NotCranky]

[quote=scaredyclassic][quote=Blogstar]The making a family stage is the easiest as far as maintaining a pair bond. Kids are consciousness altering for the better even it they do poop their diapers all the time .

Loyalty is an interesting topic and thanks to CaRenter I am considering the possibility of getting kicked to the curb when the kids are out of the house in about 10 years. Never really trust anyone. Thanks CaRenter! You have spoken well for your gender.[/quote]

Once the kids are a little older the males inadequacy comes into better focus again.[/quote]
Is that ICU time or flat line?

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=Blogstar][quote=scaredyclassic][quote=Blogstar]The making a family stage is the easiest as far as maintaining a pair bond. Kids are consciousness altering for the better even it they do poop their diapers all the time .

Loyalty is an interesting topic and thanks to CaRenter I am considering the possibility of getting kicked to the curb when the kids are out of the house in about 10 years. Never really trust anyone. Thanks CaRenter! You have spoken well for your gender.[/quote]

Once the kids are a little older the males inadequacy comes into better focus again.[/quote]
Is that ICU time or flat line?[/quote]

Just part of the cycle of life. Females view males as useless and dumb or overbearing and a b surd. I think even in the animal kingdom males are ridiculed. Surplusage.

[NotCranky]

[quote=scaredyclassic][quote=Blogstar][quote=scaredyclassic][quote=Blogstar]The making a family stage is the easiest as far as maintaining a pair bond. Kids are consciousness altering for the better even it they do poop their diapers all the time .

Loyalty is an interesting topic and thanks to CaRenter I am considering the possibility of getting kicked to the curb when the kids are out of the house in about 10 years. Never really trust anyone. Thanks CaRenter! You have spoken well for your gender.[/quote]

Once the kids are a little older the males inadequacy comes into better focus again.[/quote]
Is that ICU time or flat line?[/quote]

Just part of the cycle of life. Females view males as useless and dumb or overbearing and a b surd. I think even in the animal kingdom males are ridiculed. Surplusage.[/quote]
That makes a lot of sense. We are in the animal kingdom btw.

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