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  • January 30, 2009 at 10:46 AM #14941
    CBad
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    Hypothetically, say you’ve agreed to have a family member live with you temporarily due to the fact that they are experiencing a rough patch. What would be your rules/conditions for them staying? In this scenario, this person is single, male, has never had a professional job (mainly bartender, waiter, etc. and has always been in a band) and desires to go back to school to get a career probably in the medical field.

    My conditions:

    1. 2 months max. We can renegotiate after 2 months if it’s mutually desirable to do it longer. I’m thinking 2 months is enough time to find a low wage job, figure out the school thing, find a room to rent, and I will help with all of the above.

    2. No smoking/drinking/drugs. Period.

    3. If after 1 month I don’t see any effort to enroll in school and get a job you have to find somewhere else.

    4. No friends over.

    I know my rules suck. I am trying to make it so that this person gets focused and gets out into the world like the adult he should have been 18 years ago. I also have children to consider so I don’t want people I don’t know in my house. My husband and I have no desire for this person to live with us and I’m doing it out of the goodness of my heart because I love him and we’re treating it like charity. Thoughts?

    January 30, 2009 at 11:16 AM #338712
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    Having those rules are good. It’s your house, so that person need to respect that. But personally, I have no problem with my family member living with me when they hit a rough patch. To me, that’s what family do for each other. That’s what separate family from friends. I personally wouldn’t set a limit.

    January 30, 2009 at 11:16 AM #339043
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    Having those rules are good. It’s your house, so that person need to respect that. But personally, I have no problem with my family member living with me when they hit a rough patch. To me, that’s what family do for each other. That’s what separate family from friends. I personally wouldn’t set a limit.

    January 30, 2009 at 11:16 AM #339138
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    Having those rules are good. It’s your house, so that person need to respect that. But personally, I have no problem with my family member living with me when they hit a rough patch. To me, that’s what family do for each other. That’s what separate family from friends. I personally wouldn’t set a limit.

    January 30, 2009 at 11:16 AM #339166
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    Having those rules are good. It’s your house, so that person need to respect that. But personally, I have no problem with my family member living with me when they hit a rough patch. To me, that’s what family do for each other. That’s what separate family from friends. I personally wouldn’t set a limit.

    January 30, 2009 at 11:16 AM #339258
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    Having those rules are good. It’s your house, so that person need to respect that. But personally, I have no problem with my family member living with me when they hit a rough patch. To me, that’s what family do for each other. That’s what separate family from friends. I personally wouldn’t set a limit.

    January 30, 2009 at 11:18 AM #338718
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    Why not give him a tent and make him camp out in the yard? It’s not that cold at night. Let him come inside to take a shower and eat and hopefully you have wireless so he can use internet from a laptop and an extention cord.

    January 30, 2009 at 11:18 AM #339049
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    Why not give him a tent and make him camp out in the yard? It’s not that cold at night. Let him come inside to take a shower and eat and hopefully you have wireless so he can use internet from a laptop and an extention cord.

    January 30, 2009 at 11:18 AM #339143
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    Why not give him a tent and make him camp out in the yard? It’s not that cold at night. Let him come inside to take a shower and eat and hopefully you have wireless so he can use internet from a laptop and an extention cord.

    January 30, 2009 at 11:18 AM #339171
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    Why not give him a tent and make him camp out in the yard? It’s not that cold at night. Let him come inside to take a shower and eat and hopefully you have wireless so he can use internet from a laptop and an extention cord.

    January 30, 2009 at 11:18 AM #339263
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    Why not give him a tent and make him camp out in the yard? It’s not that cold at night. Let him come inside to take a shower and eat and hopefully you have wireless so he can use internet from a laptop and an extention cord.

    January 30, 2009 at 11:27 AM #338728
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    [quote=Username]Why not give him a tent and make him camp out in the yard? It’s not that cold at night. Let him come inside to take a shower and eat and hopefully you have wireless so he can use internet from a laptop and an extention cord.[/quote]

    Why let him come inside to take a shower? Just give him a garden hose. And if he wants to use his laptop, give him a pedal generator.

    Geez.

    January 30, 2009 at 11:27 AM #339059
    Eugene
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    [quote=Username]Why not give him a tent and make him camp out in the yard? It’s not that cold at night. Let him come inside to take a shower and eat and hopefully you have wireless so he can use internet from a laptop and an extention cord.[/quote]

    Why let him come inside to take a shower? Just give him a garden hose. And if he wants to use his laptop, give him a pedal generator.

    Geez.

    January 30, 2009 at 11:27 AM #339154
    Eugene
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    [quote=Username]Why not give him a tent and make him camp out in the yard? It’s not that cold at night. Let him come inside to take a shower and eat and hopefully you have wireless so he can use internet from a laptop and an extention cord.[/quote]

    Why let him come inside to take a shower? Just give him a garden hose. And if he wants to use his laptop, give him a pedal generator.

    Geez.

    January 30, 2009 at 11:27 AM #339181
    Eugene
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    [quote=Username]Why not give him a tent and make him camp out in the yard? It’s not that cold at night. Let him come inside to take a shower and eat and hopefully you have wireless so he can use internet from a laptop and an extention cord.[/quote]

    Why let him come inside to take a shower? Just give him a garden hose. And if he wants to use his laptop, give him a pedal generator.

    Geez.

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