OT – Feelings of Melancholy, Life Plans Going Forward

[nocommonsense]

Wow, thanks for sharing it. I’m only in my mid 30s and sometimes experience similar symptoms as you. But I gotta say your life and your list sound A LOT more exciting than ours! Our life is completely consumed in our small children and my career.

On a certain level I think it’s perfectly normal or even healthy to experience some of the things you mentioned like wondering about the meaning and purpose of one’s life. But what you describe definitely has an element of depression in it. As a fellow Christian, I strongly suggest you seek the Lord Jesus’true peace, which “surpasses all understanding” (Philippians 4:7), through in depth reading of the scriptures and truly seeking the Lord’s face behind a closed closet door. This is as opposed to seeking God through rituals and or religious activities, which by no means are bad things themselves. Another thing I find extremely helpful is to have Christian friends who can strengthen and support you spiritually and otherwise.

I go to New Hope Church (10330 Carmel Mountain Road
San Diego, CA 92129-3215). You’re welcome to try it. It’s a stand-alone and non-denominational. Of the many things we like about it, the biggest thing to me is their focus on seeking God on the personal level and seeking His glory. This is hard to find nowadays with most churches being either legalistic or a lukewarm mean-nothing social club.

[scaredyclassic]

the problem with the depression diagnosis froma doctor is, maybe the reaosn you’re depressed is that your life is not being lived right. in toher words, the doctor might say hell you sound depressed to me, give you some drugs to mask the symptoms, and you go one living in a way that is wrong. i think most people probably should be depressed with what we have that passes or life around here.

I’d be surprised if you could find a spiritual experience in an organized religion, but what the hell, go for it.

[scaredyclassic]

the problem with the depression diagnosis froma doctor is, maybe the reaosn you’re depressed is that your life is not being lived right. in toher words, the doctor might say hell you sound depressed to me, give you some drugs to mask the symptoms, and you go one living in a way that is wrong. i think most people probably should be depressed with what we have that passes or life around here.

I’d be surprised if you could find a spiritual experience in an organized religion, but what the hell, go for it.

[scaredyclassic]

the problem with the depression diagnosis froma doctor is, maybe the reaosn you’re depressed is that your life is not being lived right. in toher words, the doctor might say hell you sound depressed to me, give you some drugs to mask the symptoms, and you go one living in a way that is wrong. i think most people probably should be depressed with what we have that passes or life around here.

I’d be surprised if you could find a spiritual experience in an organized religion, but what the hell, go for it.

[scaredyclassic]

the problem with the depression diagnosis froma doctor is, maybe the reaosn you’re depressed is that your life is not being lived right. in toher words, the doctor might say hell you sound depressed to me, give you some drugs to mask the symptoms, and you go one living in a way that is wrong. i think most people probably should be depressed with what we have that passes or life around here.

I’d be surprised if you could find a spiritual experience in an organized religion, but what the hell, go for it.

[scaredyclassic]

the problem with the depression diagnosis froma doctor is, maybe the reaosn you’re depressed is that your life is not being lived right. in toher words, the doctor might say hell you sound depressed to me, give you some drugs to mask the symptoms, and you go one living in a way that is wrong. i think most people probably should be depressed with what we have that passes or life around here.

I’d be surprised if you could find a spiritual experience in an organized religion, but what the hell, go for it.

[flyer]

The past comments are excellent, and truly worthy of your consideration.

Along with those thoughts, I’d like to add that, because we all have so much, and have done so much in this world, at some point, this life CAN seem empty after you’ve “done it all.”

As you, my wife and I (kids are gone) pretty much have everything we want, and have been just about everywhere we want to go, but, because of our spiritual beliefs, we realize the best is yet to come.

Once you truly and fully realize that, you stop clinging to what you think should make you happy, and realize the deep sense of happiness and peace you seek comes from a relationship with something outside of yourself. For us, that peace and happiness comes from our relationship with God, and from helping our families and others in any way we can.

We all want the best in this world to last forever, but good, bad or indifferent–EVERYTHING IN THIS WORLD IS TEMPORARY–get over it. Once you do, you’re free.

[flyer]

The past comments are excellent, and truly worthy of your consideration.

Along with those thoughts, I’d like to add that, because we all have so much, and have done so much in this world, at some point, this life CAN seem empty after you’ve “done it all.”

As you, my wife and I (kids are gone) pretty much have everything we want, and have been just about everywhere we want to go, but, because of our spiritual beliefs, we realize the best is yet to come.

Once you truly and fully realize that, you stop clinging to what you think should make you happy, and realize the deep sense of happiness and peace you seek comes from a relationship with something outside of yourself. For us, that peace and happiness comes from our relationship with God, and from helping our families and others in any way we can.

We all want the best in this world to last forever, but good, bad or indifferent–EVERYTHING IN THIS WORLD IS TEMPORARY–get over it. Once you do, you’re free.

[flyer]

The past comments are excellent, and truly worthy of your consideration.

Along with those thoughts, I’d like to add that, because we all have so much, and have done so much in this world, at some point, this life CAN seem empty after you’ve “done it all.”

As you, my wife and I (kids are gone) pretty much have everything we want, and have been just about everywhere we want to go, but, because of our spiritual beliefs, we realize the best is yet to come.

Once you truly and fully realize that, you stop clinging to what you think should make you happy, and realize the deep sense of happiness and peace you seek comes from a relationship with something outside of yourself. For us, that peace and happiness comes from our relationship with God, and from helping our families and others in any way we can.

We all want the best in this world to last forever, but good, bad or indifferent–EVERYTHING IN THIS WORLD IS TEMPORARY–get over it. Once you do, you’re free.

[flyer]

The past comments are excellent, and truly worthy of your consideration.

Along with those thoughts, I’d like to add that, because we all have so much, and have done so much in this world, at some point, this life CAN seem empty after you’ve “done it all.”

As you, my wife and I (kids are gone) pretty much have everything we want, and have been just about everywhere we want to go, but, because of our spiritual beliefs, we realize the best is yet to come.

Once you truly and fully realize that, you stop clinging to what you think should make you happy, and realize the deep sense of happiness and peace you seek comes from a relationship with something outside of yourself. For us, that peace and happiness comes from our relationship with God, and from helping our families and others in any way we can.

We all want the best in this world to last forever, but good, bad or indifferent–EVERYTHING IN THIS WORLD IS TEMPORARY–get over it. Once you do, you’re free.

[flyer]

The past comments are excellent, and truly worthy of your consideration.

Along with those thoughts, I’d like to add that, because we all have so much, and have done so much in this world, at some point, this life CAN seem empty after you’ve “done it all.”

As you, my wife and I (kids are gone) pretty much have everything we want, and have been just about everywhere we want to go, but, because of our spiritual beliefs, we realize the best is yet to come.

Once you truly and fully realize that, you stop clinging to what you think should make you happy, and realize the deep sense of happiness and peace you seek comes from a relationship with something outside of yourself. For us, that peace and happiness comes from our relationship with God, and from helping our families and others in any way we can.

We all want the best in this world to last forever, but good, bad or indifferent–EVERYTHING IN THIS WORLD IS TEMPORARY–get over it. Once you do, you’re free.

[Ricechex]

Wow. Many years ago on a road trip back from LV I was thinking about how people crossed in covered wagons. They lived to get out west and died in childbirth, and sometimes due to weather conditions/food were left to die without burial. Each day was a fight for survival. They didn’t have time to worry about whether they were happy, had no future, directionless, etc.

Unfortunately, or fortunately for us, because our basic needs are met, we have the time and energy to contemplate this ideal of “happiness.” Maybe, we aren’t supposed to be happy? Maybe, just being “okay” is good enough? Would it help to adjust your expectations?

Sounds like you are here for Erikson’s Stages of Development:
7. Middle Adulthood: 35 to 55 or 65

Ego Development Outcome: Generativity vs. Self absorption or Stagnation

Basic Strengths: Production and Care

Now work is most crucial. Erikson observed that middle-age is when we tend to be occupied with creative and meaningful work and with issues surrounding our family. Also, middle adulthood is when we can expect to “be in charge,” the role we’ve longer envied.

The significant task is to perpetuate culture and transmit values of the culture through the family (taming the kids) and working to establish a stable environment. Strength comes through care of others and production of something that contributes to the betterment of society, which Erikson calls generativity, so when we’re in this stage we often fear inactivity and meaninglessness.

As our children leave home, or our relationships or goals change, we may be faced with major life changes—the mid-life crisis—and struggle with finding new meanings and purposes. If we don’t get through this stage successfully, we can become self-absorbed and stagnate.

Significant relationships are within the workplace, the community and the family.
http://www.learningplaceonline.com/stages/organize/Erikson.htm

The other thing that came to mind, and I am quite serious is: Pre-Menopause. Could be your hormones are all jacked up. For a holistic approach, recommend, per day:
1 capsule 1000 mg Vitamin C
1 capsule Phyto-Estrogen
Daily Tincture of Vitex, Elixir for Women

[Ricechex]

Wow. Many years ago on a road trip back from LV I was thinking about how people crossed in covered wagons. They lived to get out west and died in childbirth, and sometimes due to weather conditions/food were left to die without burial. Each day was a fight for survival. They didn’t have time to worry about whether they were happy, had no future, directionless, etc.

Unfortunately, or fortunately for us, because our basic needs are met, we have the time and energy to contemplate this ideal of “happiness.” Maybe, we aren’t supposed to be happy? Maybe, just being “okay” is good enough? Would it help to adjust your expectations?

Sounds like you are here for Erikson’s Stages of Development:
7. Middle Adulthood: 35 to 55 or 65

Ego Development Outcome: Generativity vs. Self absorption or Stagnation

Basic Strengths: Production and Care

Now work is most crucial. Erikson observed that middle-age is when we tend to be occupied with creative and meaningful work and with issues surrounding our family. Also, middle adulthood is when we can expect to “be in charge,” the role we’ve longer envied.

The significant task is to perpetuate culture and transmit values of the culture through the family (taming the kids) and working to establish a stable environment. Strength comes through care of others and production of something that contributes to the betterment of society, which Erikson calls generativity, so when we’re in this stage we often fear inactivity and meaninglessness.

As our children leave home, or our relationships or goals change, we may be faced with major life changes—the mid-life crisis—and struggle with finding new meanings and purposes. If we don’t get through this stage successfully, we can become self-absorbed and stagnate.

Significant relationships are within the workplace, the community and the family.
http://www.learningplaceonline.com/stages/organize/Erikson.htm

The other thing that came to mind, and I am quite serious is: Pre-Menopause. Could be your hormones are all jacked up. For a holistic approach, recommend, per day:
1 capsule 1000 mg Vitamin C
1 capsule Phyto-Estrogen
Daily Tincture of Vitex, Elixir for Women

[Ricechex]

Wow. Many years ago on a road trip back from LV I was thinking about how people crossed in covered wagons. They lived to get out west and died in childbirth, and sometimes due to weather conditions/food were left to die without burial. Each day was a fight for survival. They didn’t have time to worry about whether they were happy, had no future, directionless, etc.

Unfortunately, or fortunately for us, because our basic needs are met, we have the time and energy to contemplate this ideal of “happiness.” Maybe, we aren’t supposed to be happy? Maybe, just being “okay” is good enough? Would it help to adjust your expectations?

Sounds like you are here for Erikson’s Stages of Development:
7. Middle Adulthood: 35 to 55 or 65

Ego Development Outcome: Generativity vs. Self absorption or Stagnation

Basic Strengths: Production and Care

Now work is most crucial. Erikson observed that middle-age is when we tend to be occupied with creative and meaningful work and with issues surrounding our family. Also, middle adulthood is when we can expect to “be in charge,” the role we’ve longer envied.

The significant task is to perpetuate culture and transmit values of the culture through the family (taming the kids) and working to establish a stable environment. Strength comes through care of others and production of something that contributes to the betterment of society, which Erikson calls generativity, so when we’re in this stage we often fear inactivity and meaninglessness.

As our children leave home, or our relationships or goals change, we may be faced with major life changes—the mid-life crisis—and struggle with finding new meanings and purposes. If we don’t get through this stage successfully, we can become self-absorbed and stagnate.

Significant relationships are within the workplace, the community and the family.
http://www.learningplaceonline.com/stages/organize/Erikson.htm

The other thing that came to mind, and I am quite serious is: Pre-Menopause. Could be your hormones are all jacked up. For a holistic approach, recommend, per day:
1 capsule 1000 mg Vitamin C
1 capsule Phyto-Estrogen
Daily Tincture of Vitex, Elixir for Women

[Ricechex]

Wow. Many years ago on a road trip back from LV I was thinking about how people crossed in covered wagons. They lived to get out west and died in childbirth, and sometimes due to weather conditions/food were left to die without burial. Each day was a fight for survival. They didn’t have time to worry about whether they were happy, had no future, directionless, etc.

Unfortunately, or fortunately for us, because our basic needs are met, we have the time and energy to contemplate this ideal of “happiness.” Maybe, we aren’t supposed to be happy? Maybe, just being “okay” is good enough? Would it help to adjust your expectations?

Sounds like you are here for Erikson’s Stages of Development:
7. Middle Adulthood: 35 to 55 or 65

Ego Development Outcome: Generativity vs. Self absorption or Stagnation

Basic Strengths: Production and Care

Now work is most crucial. Erikson observed that middle-age is when we tend to be occupied with creative and meaningful work and with issues surrounding our family. Also, middle adulthood is when we can expect to “be in charge,” the role we’ve longer envied.

The significant task is to perpetuate culture and transmit values of the culture through the family (taming the kids) and working to establish a stable environment. Strength comes through care of others and production of something that contributes to the betterment of society, which Erikson calls generativity, so when we’re in this stage we often fear inactivity and meaninglessness.

As our children leave home, or our relationships or goals change, we may be faced with major life changes—the mid-life crisis—and struggle with finding new meanings and purposes. If we don’t get through this stage successfully, we can become self-absorbed and stagnate.

Significant relationships are within the workplace, the community and the family.
http://www.learningplaceonline.com/stages/organize/Erikson.htm

The other thing that came to mind, and I am quite serious is: Pre-Menopause. Could be your hormones are all jacked up. For a holistic approach, recommend, per day:
1 capsule 1000 mg Vitamin C
1 capsule Phyto-Estrogen
Daily Tincture of Vitex, Elixir for Women

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