ot: Facebook ethical question

[scaredyclassic]

What is the point of having children if you can’t control them forever?

[Coronita]

[quote=6packscaredy]What is the point of having children if you can’t control them forever?[/quote]

So they can buy you a porsche when they are older, after you send them a tab of everything you paid for them…plus interest…..

[njtosd]

[quote=6packscaredy]It is wrong to read a diary left on a school bench[/quote]

In my example the diary was left out on the bench intentionally for people to look at, just as a Facebook page is posted intentionally for other people to look at. Facebook is really little more than an elaborate personal ad. Naturally things left accidentally are a different matter, but that wouldn’t make sense in this discussion.

[CA renter]

[quote=6packscaredy]What is the point of having children if you can’t control them forever?[/quote]

Companionship and love? If they go away…you lose their companionship and daily hugs and kisses. For those of us who really love hanging out with our kids, that’s incredibly sad to think about.

[scaredyclassic]

Companionship fades as they establish their own thing.

love is too vague. It’s just the sum total of how other people make us feel and what they do for us. Kids love their parents in a nostalgic way but the spell is broken when they create their own lives.

It’s sad. It’s the beginning of dying.

[NotCranky]

They just show love better when they are kids and then they learn from us how not to do it. The love is still there ….you can find people who have kept the ability to show it to amazing degrees but not many of them.

One of my kid’s teacher has a beautiful relationship with her mom. The elder is in her 90’s and the younger in her sixties…they are like gleeful sisters together….so much love. These women are surrounded by it ,many ,many people…not Internet losers like us.

[scaredyclassic]

Unlikely outcome

[spdrun]

With your cynicism, wouldn’t you be better off living in the north woods of Maine, upper Michigan, or even the Upper West Side than in sunny Pollyanna California?

[FlyerInHi]

Facebook privacy settings are inconvenient to set on purpose because facebook wants the most eyeballs. So users don’t bother.

Facebook allows people to peer uninvited into the lives of others. That can create jealousy and resentment. Social white lies are revealed and feelings get bruised.

[spdrun]

Not really — it’s trivial to set default to “friends only” and the privacy setting on each post is clearly visible and takes two clicks to set. User interface is not the problem here.

[FlyerInHi]

Young people use mobile devices that don’t have all options.

Feelings get bruised when someone is not included in something and when social cliques evolve but people can’t let go.

[spdrun]

If the default is set, then it applies across all devices/browsers/apps.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=spdrun]With your cynicism, wouldn’t you be better off living in the north woods of Maine, upper Michigan, or even the Upper West Side than in sunny Pollyanna California?[/quote]

I enjoy not fitting in.

[FlyerInHi]

Even then, all friends are not equal.
People get new friends. new loves and new lives.

People get upset when they find you did something without them.

I’ve had that happen to me. I went somewhere but I didn’t call or visit a friend. She was very upset because she felt I should have at least called while in the area.

Also facebook comments and tags get broadcast all over. Sometimes you intend a comment to one person or a small group only. Better limit the use of facebook.

[NotCranky]

[quote=FlyerInHi]Even then, all friends are not equal.
People get new friends. new loves and new lives.

People get upset when they find you did something without them.

I’ve had that happen to me. I went somewhere but I didn’t call or visit a friend. She was very upset because she felt I should have at least called while in the area.

Also facebook comments and tags get broadcast all over. Sometimes you intend a comment to one person or a small group only. Better limit the use of facebook.[/quote]

Facebook is treacherous…better used for shameless self-promotion, if there is a need, and that’s it.

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