I have two probably contradictory views on this. First, putting in place no privacy settings makes it different than a diary on the couch; it’s more like leaving a diary on a bench at school. If it’s ok for your worst enemy to look at (for instance) I would assume it’s ok for your parents. On the other hand, I generally take a “need to know” attitude toward my son’s online presence (younger kids don’t have an online presence). He understands that as long as we’re paying for it (and especially since it’s under our name) we have access to his computer, phone, etc. So far, though, I haven’t felt the need to snoop. His sister has, though, which is interesting.
Not unethical. If he doesn’t want the world reading it, and wants only “friends” to see it, he should limit the audience. There may be more personal posts that are in fact limited.
[quote=spdrun]Not unethical. If he doesn’t want the world reading it, and wants only “friends” to see it, he should limit the audience. There may be more personal posts that are in fact limited.[/quote]
If he and some friends were at a bar chatting and I snooped unseen it feels that would be wrong even if they were speaking loudly enough for the public to hear
If he and some friends were at a bar chatting and I snooped unseen it feels that would be wrong even if they were speaking loudly enough for the public to hear
Public posts on FB are more like a letter to the editor of the local fishwrap. Plenty of people deliberately post stuff on FB with no privacy settings.
Ok. I was just thinking out loud. I guess it’s not too objectionable.
He really doesn’t miss us at all. Not one iota. He has his complete own life going on. It Is really really distressing. I served a purpose but he’s on his way except for money. It seems sad to glimpse in on fb. But maybe it’s ok.
[quote=6packscaredy]Ok. I was just thinking out loud. I guess it’s not too objectionable.
He really doesn’t miss us at all. Not one iota. He has his complete own life going on. It Is really really distressing. I served a purpose but he’s on his way except for money. It seems sad to glimpse in on fb. But maybe it’s ok.[/quote]
No worries, he’s probably just preoccupied with is GF right now….
When I went to school, I bought my dad a bumper sticker. It said “My son and my money go to *** school”
[quote=6packscaredy]He really doesn’t miss us at all. Not one iota. He has his complete own life going on. It Is really really distressing. [/quote]
This must be your first one to leave the nest.
It gets easier to accept with the second.
As for snooping, we lived by the theory “Trust but Verify”. I trusted them, but verified every 6 months or so. I used my sw knowledge to go thru back channels. Never found anything illegal or immoral, so I let the little places they stepped out of bounds go. I always felt a little bad about peeking in, but felt obligated as a parent.
[quote=6packscaredy]Ok. I was just thinking out loud. I guess it’s not too objectionable.
He really doesn’t miss us at all. Not one iota. He has his complete own life going on. It Is really really distressing. I served a purpose but he’s on his way except for money. It seems sad to glimpse in on fb. But maybe it’s ok.[/quote]
