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October 1, 2008 at 3:20 PM #279324October 1, 2008 at 3:50 PM #279013
LAAFTERHOURS
ParticipantNeither is abusive, doing drugs or cheating. I dont know them well enough to answer the question related to a decision to keep someone at home but she is going to school next year (Public) so she would need to find a job/ hobby anyway.
Thank you to all of you for the knowledge transfer/ advise.
Sounds like two options – they need to work shit out or dump the townhome.
October 1, 2008 at 3:50 PM #279280ParticipantNeither is abusive, doing drugs or cheating. I dont know them well enough to answer the question related to a decision to keep someone at home but she is going to school next year (Public) so she would need to find a job/ hobby anyway.
Thank you to all of you for the knowledge transfer/ advise.
Sounds like two options – they need to work shit out or dump the townhome.
October 1, 2008 at 3:50 PM #279292ParticipantNeither is abusive, doing drugs or cheating. I dont know them well enough to answer the question related to a decision to keep someone at home but she is going to school next year (Public) so she would need to find a job/ hobby anyway.
Thank you to all of you for the knowledge transfer/ advise.
Sounds like two options – they need to work shit out or dump the townhome.
October 1, 2008 at 3:50 PM #279328ParticipantNeither is abusive, doing drugs or cheating. I dont know them well enough to answer the question related to a decision to keep someone at home but she is going to school next year (Public) so she would need to find a job/ hobby anyway.
Thank you to all of you for the knowledge transfer/ advise.
Sounds like two options – they need to work shit out or dump the townhome.
October 1, 2008 at 3:50 PM #279339ParticipantNeither is abusive, doing drugs or cheating. I dont know them well enough to answer the question related to a decision to keep someone at home but she is going to school next year (Public) so she would need to find a job/ hobby anyway.
Thank you to all of you for the knowledge transfer/ advise.
Sounds like two options – they need to work shit out or dump the townhome.
October 1, 2008 at 4:44 PM #279042jficquette
ParticipantWhat happened to people working on a marriage and sticking together? What happened to people putting children first?
I would tell him to work it out with his wife. Seek help from counsulors etc.
If that doesn’t work put the Townhome up for sale and let her live in the Townhome until it sells because it would be less disruptive to the child.
Kids need their Mothers. Thats half the reason our society is so messed up because a whole generation of kids have grown up without the love and attention that can only be provided by a stay at home parent.
No one can convince me that it doesn’t matter and no one can convince me of the silly argument that its “quality time vs. quantity of time” because quantity is quality.
John
October 1, 2008 at 4:44 PM #279312ParticipantWhat happened to people working on a marriage and sticking together? What happened to people putting children first?
I would tell him to work it out with his wife. Seek help from counsulors etc.
If that doesn’t work put the Townhome up for sale and let her live in the Townhome until it sells because it would be less disruptive to the child.
Kids need their Mothers. Thats half the reason our society is so messed up because a whole generation of kids have grown up without the love and attention that can only be provided by a stay at home parent.
No one can convince me that it doesn’t matter and no one can convince me of the silly argument that its “quality time vs. quantity of time” because quantity is quality.
John
October 1, 2008 at 4:44 PM #279321ParticipantWhat happened to people working on a marriage and sticking together? What happened to people putting children first?
I would tell him to work it out with his wife. Seek help from counsulors etc.
If that doesn’t work put the Townhome up for sale and let her live in the Townhome until it sells because it would be less disruptive to the child.
Kids need their Mothers. Thats half the reason our society is so messed up because a whole generation of kids have grown up without the love and attention that can only be provided by a stay at home parent.
No one can convince me that it doesn’t matter and no one can convince me of the silly argument that its “quality time vs. quantity of time” because quantity is quality.
John
October 1, 2008 at 4:44 PM #279358ParticipantWhat happened to people working on a marriage and sticking together? What happened to people putting children first?
I would tell him to work it out with his wife. Seek help from counsulors etc.
If that doesn’t work put the Townhome up for sale and let her live in the Townhome until it sells because it would be less disruptive to the child.
Kids need their Mothers. Thats half the reason our society is so messed up because a whole generation of kids have grown up without the love and attention that can only be provided by a stay at home parent.
No one can convince me that it doesn’t matter and no one can convince me of the silly argument that its “quality time vs. quantity of time” because quantity is quality.
John
October 1, 2008 at 4:44 PM #279369ParticipantWhat happened to people working on a marriage and sticking together? What happened to people putting children first?
I would tell him to work it out with his wife. Seek help from counsulors etc.
If that doesn’t work put the Townhome up for sale and let her live in the Townhome until it sells because it would be less disruptive to the child.
Kids need their Mothers. Thats half the reason our society is so messed up because a whole generation of kids have grown up without the love and attention that can only be provided by a stay at home parent.
No one can convince me that it doesn’t matter and no one can convince me of the silly argument that its “quality time vs. quantity of time” because quantity is quality.
John
October 1, 2008 at 4:49 PM #279052UCGal
ParticipantCalifornia is community property, community debt.
Assuming the condo was purchased while they were married, it doesn’t matter who the breadwinner was. Same with the downpayment – it co-mingled as soon as it was put into the jointly owned property.I also take offense at the idea that the wife wasn’t working. Being a full-time SAHP is the hardest job. She may not have been being paid, but she was working.
Friends who were in a similar situation came to a deal – the agreed that she kept the house – negative equity and all – but was responsible for payments going forward. He got an equivilent debt from credit cards. They split the debt.
All of this is separate from child support – that has nothing to do with the condo or who keeps it. Non-custodial parent pays child support – period.
October 1, 2008 at 4:49 PM #279322ParticipantCalifornia is community property, community debt.
Assuming the condo was purchased while they were married, it doesn’t matter who the breadwinner was. Same with the downpayment – it co-mingled as soon as it was put into the jointly owned property.I also take offense at the idea that the wife wasn’t working. Being a full-time SAHP is the hardest job. She may not have been being paid, but she was working.
Friends who were in a similar situation came to a deal – the agreed that she kept the house – negative equity and all – but was responsible for payments going forward. He got an equivilent debt from credit cards. They split the debt.
All of this is separate from child support – that has nothing to do with the condo or who keeps it. Non-custodial parent pays child support – period.
October 1, 2008 at 4:49 PM #279331ParticipantCalifornia is community property, community debt.
Assuming the condo was purchased while they were married, it doesn’t matter who the breadwinner was. Same with the downpayment – it co-mingled as soon as it was put into the jointly owned property.I also take offense at the idea that the wife wasn’t working. Being a full-time SAHP is the hardest job. She may not have been being paid, but she was working.
Friends who were in a similar situation came to a deal – the agreed that she kept the house – negative equity and all – but was responsible for payments going forward. He got an equivilent debt from credit cards. They split the debt.
All of this is separate from child support – that has nothing to do with the condo or who keeps it. Non-custodial parent pays child support – period.
October 1, 2008 at 4:49 PM #279368ParticipantCalifornia is community property, community debt.
Assuming the condo was purchased while they were married, it doesn’t matter who the breadwinner was. Same with the downpayment – it co-mingled as soon as it was put into the jointly owned property.I also take offense at the idea that the wife wasn’t working. Being a full-time SAHP is the hardest job. She may not have been being paid, but she was working.
Friends who were in a similar situation came to a deal – the agreed that she kept the house – negative equity and all – but was responsible for payments going forward. He got an equivilent debt from credit cards. They split the debt.
All of this is separate from child support – that has nothing to do with the condo or who keeps it. Non-custodial parent pays child support – period.
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