irrational fear?; spouse wants house…

[scaredyclassic]

I’ve been reading this board for a while now and have enjoyed hearing people voice what i’d been thinking. However, I’m now in the position of my wife having had enough of my theorizing and scheming and just wants to go buy a damn house. I see her point of view but I still feel there’s substantial downside to what were looking at (temecula housing, semi-custom on .5-5 acres, $350-500k). I’m not looking to time the absolute bottom, honestly, I just don’t want to be buying into a rapidly falling market. Is there any compelling argument I can give her as to why we should wait a year, since she thinks I’m just being irrational. My feeling in a nutshell is, higher unemployment next year, coupled with weak stock market, means things have got to be weaker next year and we’ll just get more bang for our buck even if we end up spending the same amount of money. We plan to stay there 10-20 years and have no reason to move right now. Basically, i’m asking for the pep talk on why I shouldn’t buy now, but since we don’t talk about housing that much anymore, I haven’t heard it in a while, and am not sure it actually applies anymore. I think it does in my heart, but her argument is I always feel that way and am always going to feel that way. I just think there is more trouble ahead and we have waited so long we ought to wait for the misery level to increase a bit more….any reasoning on this issue appreciated.

[Anonymous]

Don’t worry, Suzanne has done the research 🙂

[Anonymous]

Don’t worry, Suzanne has done the research 🙂

[Anonymous]

Don’t worry, Suzanne has done the research 🙂

[Anonymous]

Don’t worry, Suzanne has done the research 🙂

[Anonymous]

Don’t worry, Suzanne has done the research 🙂

[Ren]

If it’s half your money, say “no”, period. That’s what I did. Until she does her own research on the market, it isn’t your job to show her graph after graph attempting to prove to a nesting female that it would be smarter to wait. What’s she going to do, divorce you? (No offense to you nesting females – I love mine.)

I do recommend looking at similar properties on redfin.com, though. You can watch the price drops and see the sales history for individual properties, which can help it sink in.

[Ren]

If it’s half your money, say “no”, period. That’s what I did. Until she does her own research on the market, it isn’t your job to show her graph after graph attempting to prove to a nesting female that it would be smarter to wait. What’s she going to do, divorce you? (No offense to you nesting females – I love mine.)

I do recommend looking at similar properties on redfin.com, though. You can watch the price drops and see the sales history for individual properties, which can help it sink in.

[Ren]

If it’s half your money, say “no”, period. That’s what I did. Until she does her own research on the market, it isn’t your job to show her graph after graph attempting to prove to a nesting female that it would be smarter to wait. What’s she going to do, divorce you? (No offense to you nesting females – I love mine.)

I do recommend looking at similar properties on redfin.com, though. You can watch the price drops and see the sales history for individual properties, which can help it sink in.

[Ren]

If it’s half your money, say “no”, period. That’s what I did. Until she does her own research on the market, it isn’t your job to show her graph after graph attempting to prove to a nesting female that it would be smarter to wait. What’s she going to do, divorce you? (No offense to you nesting females – I love mine.)

I do recommend looking at similar properties on redfin.com, though. You can watch the price drops and see the sales history for individual properties, which can help it sink in.

[Ren]

If it’s half your money, say “no”, period. That’s what I did. Until she does her own research on the market, it isn’t your job to show her graph after graph attempting to prove to a nesting female that it would be smarter to wait. What’s she going to do, divorce you? (No offense to you nesting females – I love mine.)

I do recommend looking at similar properties on redfin.com, though. You can watch the price drops and see the sales history for individual properties, which can help it sink in.

[CBad]

I think that life’s major decisions in a marriage require unanimous approval. So you don’t buy an enormous asset, or have children, or move, etc. unless everyone agrees. There is no more compelling argument than that.

[CBad]

I think that life’s major decisions in a marriage require unanimous approval. So you don’t buy an enormous asset, or have children, or move, etc. unless everyone agrees. There is no more compelling argument than that.

[CBad]

I think that life’s major decisions in a marriage require unanimous approval. So you don’t buy an enormous asset, or have children, or move, etc. unless everyone agrees. There is no more compelling argument than that.

[CBad]

I think that life’s major decisions in a marriage require unanimous approval. So you don’t buy an enormous asset, or have children, or move, etc. unless everyone agrees. There is no more compelling argument than that.

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