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October 21, 2013 at 9:31 PM #767132October 21, 2013 at 11:05 PM #767134
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Participant[quote=spdrun]What’s wrong with being a “cougar?” (Woman who dates younger men.) As a early-30s guy, I actually prefer the company of women in their late 30s to mid 40s to my age or younger. Generally smarter, more together, and less goddamned boring than little ditzes in their 20s.
The more cougars, the better in my book.[/quote]
I can understand that, sp, and I’m sure there are many to choose from in a sophisticated city like NY.
October 22, 2013 at 11:46 AM #767147FlyerInHi
Guest[quote=spdrun]What’s wrong with being a “cougar?” (Woman who dates younger men.) As a early-30s guy, I actually prefer the company of women in their late 30s to mid 40s to my age or younger. Generally smarter, more together, and less goddamned boring than little ditzes in their 20s.
The more cougars, the better in my book.[/quote]
That means when you are 50, your wife will be 60+
October 22, 2013 at 12:47 PM #767148spdrun
ParticipantI’m OK with that. I’m more into emotional companionship, and a 60 year old can share that just as well as a 40 or 50 year old. I’ll just make sure to smoke and drink more than average before then so I can “catch up” in age 🙂
October 22, 2013 at 1:34 PM #767149GuestThe romantic idea of a spouse being everything (soul mate, best friend, object of sexual desire, etc..) wrapped in one package is a middle class 20th century concept.
You can make intellectual and emotional connections outside of marriage. It seems limiting to not have close bonds outside of marriage.
October 22, 2013 at 1:55 PM #767150all
Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]The romantic idea of a spouse being everything (soul mate, best friend, object of sexual desire, etc..) wrapped in one package is a middle class 20th century concept.[/quote]
Entire written history disagrees with you.
October 22, 2013 at 3:07 PM #767151ParticipantFlyerInHI: Did I say anything about not having emotional connections with anyone else? Not having other friends would be boring, for sure.
But no, I couldn’t be married to and share a home with someone whom I didn’t have an emotional connection with. That would be a bit pointless.
This is not the 1700s. I’m not interested into marrying into another royal family or to get half the bride’s father’s herd of sheep.
October 22, 2013 at 4:06 PM #767156kev374
ParticipantIs.it a surprise that a good majority of women here in southern California are gold diggers? They say that the quickest way for a woman to move up the socio-economic ladder is not to work hard but rather to marry up! So why bust your behind when you could just marry some clueless guy then divorce him and get a nice settlement and alimony and retire early under his dime 😉
October 22, 2013 at 5:53 PM #767167bearishgurl
Participant[quote=kev374]Is.it a surprise that a good majority of women here in southern California are gold diggers? They say that the quickest way for a woman to move up the socio-economic ladder is not to work hard but rather to marry up! So why bust your behind when you could just marry some clueless guy then divorce him and get a nice settlement and alimony and retire early under his dime ;)[/quote]
Uhhh, kev?? In CA, you have to be married for ten years to be eligible for any alimony at all. That’s a l-o-o-o-ng time to “put up with” somebody that you just married for money. And “spousal support” (as alimony is called in CA) is set according to the wages of each party. If a low-earner or non-earner spouse is earning low or not at all and their judge thinks they should be making more in accordance with their education and experience, then the court could EASILY impute them a salary that they don’t presently have (for support calculation purposes). If the payor ever comes back to court for a reduction in CS or termination of SS because they lost their job through no fault of their own, it will likely be granted. In addition, 90% of court orders terminate spousal support at half the length of the marriage, unless the payee is completely or almost completely disabled (as decided by the SSA). The same is true of child support calculations. The fact that minor kids are in the mix doesn’t matter. Each parent in CA is expected to contribute support to their children in accordance with their income level.
You can’t just marry someone with assets before they met you and lay claim to those assets … at least not in CA.
Nor can a spouse lay claim to an inheritance of their spouse which took place during the marriage … as long as the heir does NOT commingle the funds (deposit any of it in joint accounts). This is true in almost all states.
Not to mention that anyone with assets who is thinking or marrying or remarrying will get a prenuptial agreement at least 3 months prior to the wedding (6 months is better), if they have any brains at all.
An attempt at “gold-digging” these days isn’t what it appears to be. The ones successful at this have to have clueless people with assets willing to be their victims. And there really aren’t too many of these people around.
Now, being the willing “victim” of a cougar is a victimless crime. To each his/her own …. :=]
October 22, 2013 at 10:53 PM #767187njtosd
ParticipantAs PT Barnum said, you can’t cheat an honest man. In my experience the men who complain the most about superficial gold-diggers are usually similarly superficial, although they make their choices based on looks instead of money. Guys who are honest with themselves can see a gold-digger from a mile off.
I find it funny that the first sentence out of the guy’s mouth (in the video of the OP) was something to the effect of “you’re pretty I want to go out with you.” And he’s criticizing her for being superficial? They deserve each other.October 23, 2013 at 3:39 PM #767220Happs
ParticipantI agree that both parties in the video were being superficial but other than commenting about an article of clothing, the weather, a sports team, etc, it’s an easy introduction line that’s commonplace and complementary.
Both parties use outwards expression of money and materialism to their advantage. The non materialistic man or woman who is attractive looking physically with a high mileage 12 year old compact car that’s paid for and non designer clothes, but through savings, smart shopping and hard work has a large wallet/bank account will most often be passed over in southern California for a person who shows off money and materialism but may live in credit, have high debts, and a low bank account.
October 23, 2013 at 4:10 PM #767222GuestOne of my female friend was complaining to me that her husband looks like a slob all the time. She’s embarrassed to be seen with him. The guy is a good husband and earns a good living.
You can wear cheap h&m clothes and still look good. Just look neat and tidy.
Everyone wants curb appeal and pride of ownership.
October 23, 2013 at 4:29 PM #767223
CoronitaParticipant[quote=FlyerInHi]One of my female friend was complaining to me that her husband looks like a slob all the time. She’s embarrassed to be seen with him. The guy is a good husband and earns a good living.
You can wear cheap h&m clothes and still look good. Just look neat and tidy.
Everyone wants curb appeal and pride of ownership.[/quote]
Brian, are you offering relationship tips again :)?
October 23, 2013 at 8:27 PM #767230scaredyclassic
ParticipantSome boys kiss me, some boys hug me
I think they’re O.K.
If they don’t give me proper credit
I just walk awayThey can beg and they can plead
But they can’t see the light, that’s right
‘Cause the boy with the cold hard cash
Is always Mister Right, ’cause we are[Chorus:]
Living in a material world
And I am a material girl
You know that we are living in a material world
And I am a material girlSome boys romance, some boys slow dance
That’s all right with me
If they can’t raise my interest then I
Have to let them beSome boys try and some boys lie but
I don’t let them play
Only boys who save their pennies
Make my rainy day, ’cause they are[chorus]
Living in a material world (material)
Living in a material world
[repeat]Boys may come and boys may go
And that’s all right you see
Experience has made me rich
And now they’re after me, ’cause everybody’s[chorus]
A material, a material, a material, a material world
Living in a material world (material)
Living in a material world
[repeat and fade]October 23, 2013 at 9:57 PM #767232
svelteParticipant[quote=bearishgurl]
Uhhh, kev?? In CA, you have to be married for ten years to be eligible for any alimony at all. [/quote]Uhhh, wtf? Absolutely not true!
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