Affairs of the heart…

[patientrenter]

“legally all assets accumulated prior to marriage are not community property”. What happens if those previous assets require some upkeep after the marriage, like a house would? It seems that might taint the separate property quality of the previous assets.

I’m not an attorney. I wonder if the only way to really be sure that prior assets don’t become community property is to put them in a fully self-sustaining trust, with other assets that generate enough income to pay any upkeep expenses.

And I’ve heard relying on a pre-nup is like tossing a coin… Maybe it’ll work, maybe not. You’ll never know it doesn’t work until you need it.

I can’t afford to live on half of what I’ve accumulated, and I don’t see how it’s OK to just hope that doesn’t happen, so I am… still single. When I get to double my current assets, I’ll give you a call, Marion, unless there’s a kindly attorney out there who can show now there’s a cast-iron way to preserve separate pre-marriage assets!

Patient renter in OC

[kewp]

Marion,

Thanks for the additional details. Of course, I can’t say for certain, but it does sounds like this guy is indeed being stingy (which I consider a flaw).

I make under 100k a year and still manage to treat my dates to some pretty fancy nites on the town and such. It’s really not that expensive, especially if you are clever about it.

Of course, as others have said, it may just be that the guy has been taken for a ride one too many times.

To those that suggest women are all about money…

Horse apples. Granted, nobody wants to date a deadbeat, but in terms of getting the interest of a woman money is pretty far down on the list. Unless the woman is a golddigger of course, but who the hell would want to date one of those?

I find it particularly amusing that our ancestors evolutionary history is brought up, as money is a relatively recent invention.

Studies have been done on this and the top initial triggers for attraction to women are height, intelligence and sense of humour. Stuff like money, muscles, looks, bling, etc. are all just icing on the cake.

[kewp]

Marion,

Thanks for the additional details. Of course, I can’t say for certain, but it does sounds like this guy is indeed being stingy (which I consider a flaw).

I make under 100k a year and still manage to treat my dates to some pretty fancy nites on the town and such. It’s really not that expensive, especially if you are clever about it.

Of course, as others have said, it may just be that the guy has been taken for a ride one too many times.

To those that suggest women are all about money…

Horse apples. Granted, nobody wants to date a deadbeat, but in terms of getting the interest of a woman money is pretty far down on the list. Unless the woman is a golddigger of course, but who the hell would want to date one of those?

I find it particularly amusing that our ancestors evolutionary history is brought up, as money is a relatively recent invention.

Studies have been done on this and the top initial triggers for attraction to women are height, intelligence and sense of humour. Stuff like money, muscles, looks, bling, etc. are all just icing on the cake.

[kewp]

Marion,

Thanks for the additional details. Of course, I can’t say for certain, but it does sounds like this guy is indeed being stingy (which I consider a flaw).

I make under 100k a year and still manage to treat my dates to some pretty fancy nites on the town and such. It’s really not that expensive, especially if you are clever about it.

Of course, as others have said, it may just be that the guy has been taken for a ride one too many times.

To those that suggest women are all about money…

Horse apples. Granted, nobody wants to date a deadbeat, but in terms of getting the interest of a woman money is pretty far down on the list. Unless the woman is a golddigger of course, but who the hell would want to date one of those?

I find it particularly amusing that our ancestors evolutionary history is brought up, as money is a relatively recent invention.

Studies have been done on this and the top initial triggers for attraction to women are height, intelligence and sense of humour. Stuff like money, muscles, looks, bling, etc. are all just icing on the cake.

[kewp]

Marion,

Thanks for the additional details. Of course, I can’t say for certain, but it does sounds like this guy is indeed being stingy (which I consider a flaw).

I make under 100k a year and still manage to treat my dates to some pretty fancy nites on the town and such. It’s really not that expensive, especially if you are clever about it.

Of course, as others have said, it may just be that the guy has been taken for a ride one too many times.

To those that suggest women are all about money…

Horse apples. Granted, nobody wants to date a deadbeat, but in terms of getting the interest of a woman money is pretty far down on the list. Unless the woman is a golddigger of course, but who the hell would want to date one of those?

I find it particularly amusing that our ancestors evolutionary history is brought up, as money is a relatively recent invention.

Studies have been done on this and the top initial triggers for attraction to women are height, intelligence and sense of humour. Stuff like money, muscles, looks, bling, etc. are all just icing on the cake.

[kewp]

Marion,

Thanks for the additional details. Of course, I can’t say for certain, but it does sounds like this guy is indeed being stingy (which I consider a flaw).

I make under 100k a year and still manage to treat my dates to some pretty fancy nites on the town and such. It’s really not that expensive, especially if you are clever about it.

Of course, as others have said, it may just be that the guy has been taken for a ride one too many times.

To those that suggest women are all about money…

Horse apples. Granted, nobody wants to date a deadbeat, but in terms of getting the interest of a woman money is pretty far down on the list. Unless the woman is a golddigger of course, but who the hell would want to date one of those?

I find it particularly amusing that our ancestors evolutionary history is brought up, as money is a relatively recent invention.

Studies have been done on this and the top initial triggers for attraction to women are height, intelligence and sense of humour. Stuff like money, muscles, looks, bling, etc. are all just icing on the cake.

[Anonymous]

patientrenter: “When I get to double my current assets, I’ll give you a call, Marion, unless there’s a kindly attorney out there who can show now there’s a cast-iron way to preserve separate pre-marriage assets!

Patient renter in OC”

Patientrenter, would you like me to tell you where you can shove said assets?

[Anonymous]

patientrenter: “When I get to double my current assets, I’ll give you a call, Marion, unless there’s a kindly attorney out there who can show now there’s a cast-iron way to preserve separate pre-marriage assets!

Patient renter in OC”

Patientrenter, would you like me to tell you where you can shove said assets?

[Anonymous]

patientrenter: “When I get to double my current assets, I’ll give you a call, Marion, unless there’s a kindly attorney out there who can show now there’s a cast-iron way to preserve separate pre-marriage assets!

Patient renter in OC”

Patientrenter, would you like me to tell you where you can shove said assets?

[Anonymous]

patientrenter: “When I get to double my current assets, I’ll give you a call, Marion, unless there’s a kindly attorney out there who can show now there’s a cast-iron way to preserve separate pre-marriage assets!

Patient renter in OC”

Patientrenter, would you like me to tell you where you can shove said assets?

[Anonymous]

patientrenter: “When I get to double my current assets, I’ll give you a call, Marion, unless there’s a kindly attorney out there who can show now there’s a cast-iron way to preserve separate pre-marriage assets!

Patient renter in OC”

Patientrenter, would you like me to tell you where you can shove said assets?

[VoZangre]

Marion…

pardon me, Miss.

Truly.

These questions are niggling ones produced by the modernization of interactions among beings that are emotionally wired far more crudely than not ( we are cavemen and women in many many respects)…

and I forgot to add that the guy bringing up the pre-nup on date #4 is entirely lame and violates vehemently my wacky sense of gentlemanliness…

me? 40 y/o getting married on Dec 15… yes, this Saturday next!

She’s got a nice load of student loan that i dont have… she mentioned ” Don’t worry, it’s my problem. I’ll take care of it. ” Which means… no joint accounts. I simply won’t foot THAT bill… and we’ll have to juggle our stuff as best we can… I ain’t stingy but her sense of inflow and outflow seems imbalanced… something we’ll have to fine tune.

Dating is frustrating and maddening in all sorts of ways…

as for ” guy goes first”… I was doing a “you show me yours and I’ll show you mine” behind the garage with my down-the-street playmate when I was, I dunno, maybe 4 or 5… she went first and as I reached to pull my shorts down her mom interrupted… I felt so GUILTY!!!

am not sure I have recovered.

[VoZangre]

Marion…

pardon me, Miss.

Truly.

These questions are niggling ones produced by the modernization of interactions among beings that are emotionally wired far more crudely than not ( we are cavemen and women in many many respects)…

and I forgot to add that the guy bringing up the pre-nup on date #4 is entirely lame and violates vehemently my wacky sense of gentlemanliness…

me? 40 y/o getting married on Dec 15… yes, this Saturday next!

She’s got a nice load of student loan that i dont have… she mentioned ” Don’t worry, it’s my problem. I’ll take care of it. ” Which means… no joint accounts. I simply won’t foot THAT bill… and we’ll have to juggle our stuff as best we can… I ain’t stingy but her sense of inflow and outflow seems imbalanced… something we’ll have to fine tune.

Dating is frustrating and maddening in all sorts of ways…

as for ” guy goes first”… I was doing a “you show me yours and I’ll show you mine” behind the garage with my down-the-street playmate when I was, I dunno, maybe 4 or 5… she went first and as I reached to pull my shorts down her mom interrupted… I felt so GUILTY!!!

am not sure I have recovered.

[VoZangre]

Marion…

pardon me, Miss.

Truly.

These questions are niggling ones produced by the modernization of interactions among beings that are emotionally wired far more crudely than not ( we are cavemen and women in many many respects)…

and I forgot to add that the guy bringing up the pre-nup on date #4 is entirely lame and violates vehemently my wacky sense of gentlemanliness…

me? 40 y/o getting married on Dec 15… yes, this Saturday next!

She’s got a nice load of student loan that i dont have… she mentioned ” Don’t worry, it’s my problem. I’ll take care of it. ” Which means… no joint accounts. I simply won’t foot THAT bill… and we’ll have to juggle our stuff as best we can… I ain’t stingy but her sense of inflow and outflow seems imbalanced… something we’ll have to fine tune.

Dating is frustrating and maddening in all sorts of ways…

as for ” guy goes first”… I was doing a “you show me yours and I’ll show you mine” behind the garage with my down-the-street playmate when I was, I dunno, maybe 4 or 5… she went first and as I reached to pull my shorts down her mom interrupted… I felt so GUILTY!!!

am not sure I have recovered.

[VoZangre]

Marion…

pardon me, Miss.

Truly.

These questions are niggling ones produced by the modernization of interactions among beings that are emotionally wired far more crudely than not ( we are cavemen and women in many many respects)…

and I forgot to add that the guy bringing up the pre-nup on date #4 is entirely lame and violates vehemently my wacky sense of gentlemanliness…

me? 40 y/o getting married on Dec 15… yes, this Saturday next!

She’s got a nice load of student loan that i dont have… she mentioned ” Don’t worry, it’s my problem. I’ll take care of it. ” Which means… no joint accounts. I simply won’t foot THAT bill… and we’ll have to juggle our stuff as best we can… I ain’t stingy but her sense of inflow and outflow seems imbalanced… something we’ll have to fine tune.

Dating is frustrating and maddening in all sorts of ways…

as for ” guy goes first”… I was doing a “you show me yours and I’ll show you mine” behind the garage with my down-the-street playmate when I was, I dunno, maybe 4 or 5… she went first and as I reached to pull my shorts down her mom interrupted… I felt so GUILTY!!!

am not sure I have recovered.

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