years ago, when i was too obstinate to listen, a very wise friend told me that if two people have shared VALUES – which, unlike INTERESTS and BELIEFS – are not apt to change, find each other attractive, compatible and can be good friends – will be more successful at the marriage game than those who are just looking for a hot body and/or a meal ticket.
Dharma, I agee with the above but am of the opinion that values and a belief system is often blurred. Attractiveness and compatibility are also very important. Physical attractiveness much less so because when/if love kicks in, that perception is no longer static. Compatibility being at the top of the list because if two people can’t get along it doesn’t matter what else they share.
About marriage, although it’s something I presently think I’d like to do, it’s still scary to me. I like to think positive in terms of it being something I can do in the future, but as I said before it can be a hard thing.
All in all, if compatibility in most things are present, I guess it depends on how much two people want to do it. When the sex is hot that helps, right? haha! 🙂
Really going off topic here, but somehow we got off on marriage and relationships. One comment about physical appearance. In any relationship between a man a woman, people will change, wrinkles and men lose hair. So someone getting less attractive in terms of physical appearance should be something that you cope with. However, some things for me would be hard to cope with. For instance if a man becomes a “balloon”. This may be a little crass, but I’m going to be direct: I can’t handle 300 pounds on top of me. In that situation I’ll still love the person, but…
