Well, there are always 2 sides to every story. I can understand supporting your kids as much as you can. But I know with some people they don’t act logically or think rationally. I’m not sure I agree with the “reasonably intelligent girl”. I mean, listen to what she wrote about quickly getting engaged to some guy she met on Twitter!
That doesn’t sound like someone that is reasonably intelligent. Normal, intelligent people don’t do things like that. It sounds like someone that is a mess and doesn’t have good common sense skills and logic or reasoning. So maybe her parents kicked her out for a reason.
Definitely if my kids were struggling at 23 I’d take them in. But I would want them to be a productive member of society and not just mooching off of me. They’d have to be working or actively looking for work, etc.
But at the same time, I know of some people that are just lazy by nature and don’t like working. And there isn’t any reason why parents should encourage or support that kind of behavior at 23. So if this girl (and others) are like this…kicking them out might be the best thing you can do to teach them that you can’t get sit back and do nothing in life.
You can see many countries where kids live at home essentially until they are married. And they work, have normal lives, go to school, etc. When I lived in Argentina, I really liked seeing the closeness of families. Females many times would live at home until 30’s or until they got married. Same with males. They would save up, not go crazy with debt and that was common to live at home, save up money and get a true start on life.
I do think sometimes you gotta have some tough love.
