Totally agree that as long as your kids are living the lives they want to live (and that goes for all of us)–that’s all that matters–as long as they can eventually support themselves. My point was that, many parenting roads do not necessarily seem to be leading to that destination–from what we’ve seen with many of the kids our kids grew up with.
Also agree that college is not the end all be all. We know pilots who have made over $200K/yr. for many years, as we did, who never went to college, but they did find a niche in which to support themselves and their families. (That, along with investment properties, and franchises, as flu mentioned.)