[quote=svelte]I don’t know, it doesn’t seem any different than the zillion college brochures mailed to us when our kids were high school seniors, or the letter the car dealer sends us offering to sell us a new car the month he knows we made our final payment, or the refi offers we get in the mail that list our original mortgage company, or the AARP brochures that we started getting when we turned 40 (!!). It always makes me aware of just how much info there is floating around about us out there.
Not really thrilled with any of that, but I’m not sure I think a line was crossed.[/quote]
Most of the things you mentioned are all positive, or at least part of normal living.
Now imagine you went to an oncologist, and because of that charge, a realtor was able to send you this: “dealing with cancer is difficult, and possible death is worse. Let me help you sell your home now so you can enjoy those frozen equities now! I’ll even arrange with the new owner to help you stay in your home until your demise.”
To me divorce is still quite a negative concept, and definitely not something one can assume just based on a quit claim deed. Just like you do not assume cancer or imminent death from a visit to an oncologist. Don’t think any realtor has ever crossed that line since now we are dealing with Confidentiality issues of health. But I think there is enough parallels here for OP to be justified in his anger.