so, back to herpes … if you ask a prospective mate whether they have herpes, they will answer yes or no. if they answer no, and they were willing to submit to a blood test, there would likely be some antibodies in their blood, which doesn’t necessarily mean they have the virus, i think, but that they were exposed at some point. the only definitive test would be a swab during an outbreak, which of course, would mean they have it.
so, someone who tells you they don’t have it, may be telling the truth. may be lying. or may be in denial. you’d have to review the data on prevalence in the san diego population, but the odds are some of your prosepctvie partners are either in denial or lying.
someone who tell you they have it is being honest and is probably far less likely to infect you.
a herpes disclosure, rather than a negative point, should probably be seen as a plus.
i think this analysis would apply to other “flaws” as well.
