[quote=sdduuuude]1) Only have the rules if you are prepared to enforce them (i.e. boot him out, call the cops, etc). Envision yourself doing it, and decide now if you actually could. If you could – go for it.
2) Don’t let your expectations get out of control. Put another way – don’t take his failure as a failure on your part.
3) Don’t believe that helping him beyond 2 months (if he doesn’t shape up) is actually helping.
4) Charging rent after 2 months is a grand idea.
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I agree with the dude.
In addition: i’m a bit of a hard-nose so I think it is your house, you get to set the rules. Period.
If he doesn’t like them, he is free to find a home with rules that fit his criteria.
You are doing HIM a favor, he should appreciate that…on the surface it sounds like he is still trying to find his place in the sun and coddling him is, in the long run, doing him no favors.
Personally, I think rent should start from day 1. If he cannot afford rent, well there are ALWAYS household chores that can be completed in leiu of rent.
My view is that once a person reaches 18, there are no free rides in this life. That view has gotten me into a bit of hot water on this board before. Again, I’m a hard-nose.
