[quote=scaredyclassic]
Marriage is a rowboat. Do not marry someone who does not have an oar in the water and who can pull hard.[/quote]
I like this quote 🙂
Just a quick update, sorry to resurrect this old thread!
It’s been 6 months since the breakup and a week or so ago I get this highly accusatory email from her blaming me for just about everything. Walking away, being cruel for not supporting her through her hard times etc. etc.
You see I have spent the last few months moving forward in my life, pursuing my hobbies etc. Occasionally I post something on Facebook such as I went on a hike or I am riding my bikes at Location X etc. The biggest mistake was that I kept her contact on FB.
She has written me that it’s heartbreaking that I am continuing life like nothing ever happened. She says it’s proof that I never cared about her. Is this even rational thought?
We have friends in common and I had told them that I was planning my trip to Nepal in November. My friends have gone and leaked this info to her (pissed at them for doing so but they claim it was just innocent talk!). She says I walked away from her due to her financial baggage but now I am “blowing money” on my vacations to exotic places so it’s proof that I did not want to be with her because I wanted to spend all my money on myself.
This is such nonsense because during our time together I have spent a sh!tload on her and us. I took her to many places solely on my dime, once we even went to Asia and I paid the tab for both of us. When she moved to her new place she did not have a TV, I gave her my old big screen TV, my blu-ray player etc. and bought myself new stuff just because I knew she like watching shows and didn’t have a big TV. I bought her a Roku, iPhone 5S for her birthday etc. I have been very generous and I can’t believe it that she writes such stuff..unbelievable! Then she says she doesn’t care about the money I spent on her because that’s not important because I left her in her time of need.
The email is full of accusations about how horrible I am and how hurtful and disrespectful I was to leave her in her time of need.
Well, I am rather surprised. I find her email rather immature. She committed fraud (see context in previous posts), whether she admits it or not. I am supposed to stick by that?
She admits I had a right to leave but her bone of contention is the way I broke up with her was very cruel. Well, I went to her place, had the talk and left. What else is there to do? How else do I break up? Do I have break up music? A break up extravaganza? I am at a loss as to what she expects of me? I had 2 of her items that I placed in her garage on a rack.. she exaggerates that I “threw all her stuff in the garage and ran away”.
She says she was in a difficult time and I should have stuck on until a better time to break up… this is completely unreasonable. Why? What does that accomplish? And isn’t it better to move on once one party realizes it isn’t going to work long term?
Her final grip with me is that I did not stand by her in her time of need. Well, I have taken so much BS from her it’s not even funny. During the breakup I did not even accuse her of wrongdoing which I should’ve done as technically she committed serious fraud. Whatever problems she has is self-inflicted due to her exceptionally poor judgement. I cannot help her with that.
