[quote=scaredycat]re; the adopted issue. I have no doubt that women would be more pained by a week-long separation from their adopted OR birthed kid than the adoptive father or birth father. didn’t mean to slight adopted moms. i would say they would be equally nutty as birth mothers over child absences or fighting over visitation. no offense to adopted moms and apologies![/quote]
I call bullshit on that one. The thing that pisses me off the most about my wife is she can go through a week or two without calling my daughter when she is away, while me hearing my daughter say “where’s mommy” all the time, while I can’t stand being away from my daughter more than a day. When I’m not around, I try to call my daughter everyday, and the thing that hurts the most is when she says, “daddy, come home” and for whatever reason I can’t. That said, if I had to pick between my wife or my daughter, my wife, parents, or anyone else for that matter, my daughter would win every single time. Relationships are touch and go, and there are times when I’m am totally totally totally pissed at my spouse and vice versa, BUT, no matter what a shitty day I had, I always enjoy seeing my daughter smile. And frankly, she’s the only one that at times I ever listen too, being stubborn me that I am. I don’t know why some folks say that mothers care more about their kid that fathers. My wife was the one who said she would never be a stay at home mom under any circumstances. Without wanting to outwardly admit it, I would the one first to drop everything for her. There are times we both come home from work late, and the funny thing is *she* is the one that goes sits on the couch, props own a newspaper and does the un,hun,unhun, ya ya ya think that the stereotypical man does after a hard days work. I’m the one that talks, reads, interacts with my daughter from 6pm-10pm before her bedtime and then continues working from 11 to the wee mornings. Yeah, I don’t want to hear about moms having it tough frankly. Any parent just does what’s necessary for their kid. period…
