Pretzels and spaghetti? I love pretzels and spaghetti. I feel a little envious of your pretzel wealth … But seriously it is difficult for mr to imagine life with no regard for where one is in the pecking order. That’s human. We move in packs like dogs, we strive to dominate, to get more resources, to spawn w the hot smart chicks. Appearing not to care about a lack of resources or status is just one temporary and effective mechanism to socially cope while preparing to move up the pecking order.