[quote=ocrenter][quote=flyer]Just a question out of curiosity, and not at all meant to be rude–but with all of the discussion on this thread about Asian households, priorities, saving “face,” etc., I was just wondering what happens in said households if, after all of the planning, sacrifice, etc., etc, the kids end up not measuring up to the familial expectations?
What happens if they can’t get into their chosen college, or land their chosen position, or, you name it–are they ostracized forever?
I think most of us have extremely high aspirations for ourselves and our children, but we also realize things don’t always go as planned, and I hope, for the kids sake, everyone realizes that.[/quote]
a lot are ostracized forever. the number of excommunicated 2nd generation Asian children are huge. all of this is brushed under the rug to save face.[/quote]
Nah, failure simply is not allowed… Can’t do math… 100 hours of kumon… Got a 97% on the CAASP test. Not good enough, why not 99%…..Grounded for 1 week. Get a B+ in grade school. holy cow, there goes your kid’s chances of going to harvard medical.
Me? I’m going to change my kid’s last name….Much easier that way…
