Not to sound all pessimistic and gloomy like Scaredy – but is anyone happy 100% of the time?
Are single people happy 100% of the time?
Marriage will not solve your problems – but it can make life richer and more enjoyable. It can also make life more miserable if you’re in a bad marriage.
Even if you have a job you love – do you love it every day of the week and never dream of chucking it all and retiring early?
Marriage is like that – you hope for and work for a marriage that adds more to your life than subtracts.
My parents were married for 47 years when my mom died. They were close to divorce a few times. But they worked it out. They were absolutely miserable during those rough spots. But they had good times AFTER the bad times – they’d managed to put things back together and enjoy life with each other again. It’s given me a clear view that marriage does not make you happy you have to work on your own happiness – and marriage doesn’t solve all your problems.
I’ve only been married 10 years – but it’s long enough that the “bloom is gone” – but we have a solid foundation and we still enjoy each others company. I’d rather be going through life with my husband than without him. Do we fight – sure. Am I 100% happy with everything he does… Hell no.
I’ve got a lot of friends just like me.
I also have friends who are divorced. Many of them should never have gotten married in the first place. But they didn’t have very realistic views of what a marriage is before they got married. I’m not surprised they’re divorced.
To make blanket statements that all marriage is good or all marriage is bad, that marriage is unnatural for everyone… that misses the fact there ARE good solid marriages out there.
