Hell even other girlfriends eventually get tired of hearing the exact same complaints…when the root of it all often comes back to the guys general failures…I wonder if the tables were turned and vented at their women in the exact same way if women would just sit and listen?
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There’s the rub. Do you have a problem with feelings or complaints? In women’s Venn Diagram, communications representing “Feelings” are a big circle within which “Complaints” are a much smaller circle. Men would look at the same communications and see the second circle as filling the first. And I for one love talking to my girlfriends – and with the exception of one, and I don’t perceive them as complaining regularly.
Men want women to be happy all the time – they love being around happy smiling women. Of course, that is a completely unreasonable and unattainable expectation. But when women are anything but happy, even if their spouse/boyfriend is completely out of control of the situation, the husband/bf somehow perceives it as an accusation that they’ve failed. Could someone explain this to me?
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I don’t complain about my husband to my friends – I wouldn’t want him to do that so I don’t. And contrary to all that I’ve heard here, I married him for a lot of reasons, including the fact that I respected him (and I still do). He makes more even-headed decisions than I do (in many cases), he has a knack for business that I don’t and when the kids were littler he had the energy to come up with funny stories for them at bedtime. I’m a happy camper.[/quote]
all the time?
Talk to guys. I think they’d be happy with a 2 percent percent vaguely satisfied to morose ratio.
