If so, wanna talk? If not, pix please???? 🙂 Sorry couldn't resist. Oink oink oink.
J/K Besides, I'm happily married (so far). Funny thing is my wife dropped weight and down to a size 2 after giving birth. I guess she was so worried that she actually worked out more. Me on the other hand, haven't been so lucky.
Somehow, this thread sort of got off topic, and I find the entire discussion about a wife's career and raising kids interesting. Because it's a considerable debate point in between my wife and I. On one hand, my wife has a comparable career to me and pretty much makes the same as me (ok I have about $5k edge). So it would be a waste for her to just throw it away (not that she would anyway). At the same time, we do have a new child, and somehow the entire thing about outsourcing to others like a nanny, child care, inlaws(outlaws) etc really bugs me. Probably I guess I'm a wuss and worry about by kid, but I find that I'm often times cutting corners out of my own life just to spend as much time with my kid as possible, more so than I feel that my wife does. She on the other hand, doesn't seem to have a problem. I guess her philosophy is that you can spend all the time with your kid, and they still grow up and hate you, so why screw up your life completely just for your kids. I guess decades of communism in a china did something: equalize the household thing. I wouldn't cut corners for anyone, even for my wife. I'm just a wussy dad. But it's also why there will only be 1 kid in my family for now…which is another sore point..But conveniently I pitch back at her "well, if you lived in China now, you could only have 1 kid anyway without repercussions".
So I guess I have a different perspective. If my wife did quit the job and through her career down the toilet and there was a kid, I do feel there is some support needed.
More realistically, if I could retire right now to spend time with my kid and my wife continues to work, I probably would. (Ok, if I could retire right now with the quality life I want for everyone from now till 60, I would..)
Anyway, I thought in CA there was a big difference in a divorce before 7 years and one after 7 years (long term marriage). Also, I thought prenups added some asset protection. It wasn't really and issue for me, because we pretty much went in to marriage with equal assets.
