Maybe its my crazy upbringing but I’d say ask your wife to get a job. You working 80-90 hours a week is fucking insane. Leave the rest of the issue aside. A wife that would be ok with that for a lifestyle needs some kind of attitude adjustment.
One of my problems is that I always seem to date work-aholic women and the toll has always been evident. however none of them works 90 hours a week and my present girlfriend is a self employed horse trainer who works 6 days a week.
Josh