Many people get divoriced multiple times so more than 50% of people who get married don’t get divoriced.
When I got married, I had no illusion that I would for sure be the one to make it happily.We both agreed that “until death do us part was not part of it”.We only agreed as to what we would do or not do to make it work. I Never argued that I am different only that I would take the chance… with eyes pretty wide open. One should not do it without consideration and a willingness to take the consequences of it ending.Once all that is done you can live in a fullfilling manner that mitigates those potential consequences by your own behavior. Both my wife and I have structured our lives so failure would not be ruinous individually. I also knew that if we stayed married ,the collection of reasons for doing so would not be static.
The alimony and child support doesn’t scare everybody to the same extent. Perhaps you just can’t understand that having your life and your wallet be largely about other people is satisfying, or at least acceptable.When they are your kids I think you have to be pretty messed up to have different priorities.
A somewhat successful divorice probbaly does depend on who and why you married. To think that all divoriced women are going to be charity cases,staying at home watching TV and playing around with Sancho, is really kind of paranoid. In this I will also almost guarantee things are “different”. I am sure even my mother in law would agree that both my wife and I, together or apart, need to be doing well for many reasons, most of all for the children. In your case you want to know what your mother in law looks like, in my case I want to know how she thinks and has lived and talks to her daughter.
Don’t take this wrong Brian, from what I see at piggington’s there is much to admire about you. However, you really do seem like a little boy with this topic. Unless of course, you are still just taking your position,foriegn brides and all,for the fun of it.
