[quote=kev374][quote=CA renter]
I was just going from what you’ve said about her likely reaction to your news. If you’ve been fully honest with her from day one, then it’s all good.[/quote]
2 months ago she asked me to move in with her and I refused and said I do not want to do it because incase we breakup I don’t want it to be complicated.
Let me ask you, if a man says after 2 years that they are NOT going to move in with you what message does it send you? As a logical person you make the determination. Does it give the message that I am going head over heels about someone? Or does it give you the message that I have doubts about the relationship? I don’t think one has to be a rocket scientist to figure this one out!
It’s my life and I reserve the right to be indecisive for any length of time as long as I don’t make false promises. As I said it’s upto someone to move on or continue knowing that they could be wasting their time.
And I may be wasting my time as well but obviously I think it’s worth it to stick around to see if my feelings about the situation change. One may feel it’s worth sticking around and the other may not feel it’s ok and that is fine.
What is NOT ok is to know the other person is unsure and then stay with that person and then make them feel bad that they are not proposing marriage and trying to guilt them or rush them into marriage… THAT is what is wrong.[/quote]
Kev, you need to realize that her “ultimatums” are her way of trying to gauge where you stand. If you’re not that into her, set her free, or let her know that you only intend to keep it “casual” from now on.
Don’t just assume that your “hints” (however obvious they may seem to you) are being received in the same way you’re intending them to be interpreted. Be the most forthright, honest person you can be; be painfully blunt. That way, nobody expends time and energy in a way that will make them feel resentful later on because they think that you had different, more serious, intentions.
