Joec, we are living in very challenging times where there are no easy answers, but I think most parents actually try to do what they think is best for their kids to the best of their abilities.
Like everyone, we had challenges with our kids, but our coping skills (ours and theirs) triumphed, and they have gone on to achieve their goals.
There are no guarantees in life, and even when you dot every i and cross every t when it comes to your kids, life can throw you curve balls that you never saw coming, and, imo, it’s how you and your kids handle those situations that makes all of the difference in the outcome of your children’s lives.
I have no doubt that you will be able to do the same when it comes to your growing family, and I wish you the best.