In crazy markets like this one, those who go the extra mile will usually get the home they want quicker. Those who whine and complain will have plenty to complain about while they miss out.
There is not a right or wrong here. Buyers make their own rules as to how much they want to pursue a listing. If you don’t go look at the home, then you don’t know if you missed out or not.
Try not to forget the seller does get to make the rules about showing their home… after all it is their home. If you don’t wanna deal with it, then don’t go see it.