I’m intrigued that you believe your daughter will manage the property well but your wife does not. I advise some prophylactic marriage counseling for all the issues going on. It’s best to go when things are good. Don’t wait for a crisis!
I’m going to be contrarian and say sell. You want to be a busboy, damnit! Follow your dream! Why live in point Loma! You can bus anywhere. Perhaps read DISHWASHER! the autobiography of a guy whose dream was to wash dishes in all 50 states. What an awesome tale he tells!
You’re sick of your job and I think SD has lost its charm for you. Frankly, point Loma is kinda dull. Take the money and bus dishes with a 2 million dollar cushion. And a working wife! Sounds good to me too! Maybe get high with the other waitstaff out back near the dumpster? Never worry about work. Get a pet ferret. Take up juggling. Free your mind of stupid bullshit.
However, I personally am staying in my house and in my job, sober, filled with normal stupid bullshit, away from dumpsters, but in marriage therapy. I think my wife would pay for me if quit my job…but maybe not…