I wrote a post about divorce …splitting the family that got lost in the upload.
Want to get it out a little.
While I said good job on your post scaredy, Sometimes I think what you said is only true because or our stupidity.
Doing something different that standard family dynamics is so loaded with self fulfilling doom proficy because we get so entrenched in the current cultural norms. Kind of like people get entrenched in religion and there is no way they will see any other way. We put this in our kids because kids are basically made by the time they are 7.
I think the logistics of sharing kids from separate houses is painful enough to want to avoid it but I am not sure they can’t get used to having two houses pretty easily if we weren’t brainwashed and hadn’t done it to them.
Humans have had many social patterns for raising children over the year and I am pretty sure there will be vastly different ones from what we have in the future. Culture is G-d.
Plus we can blind ourselves that our marriage is better than a separation easier to do once we have culturally made it so the kids will suffer from a split.
This just stuff my enemy mind thinks of from time to time…not an argument.
By Kenny Loggins about divorce I think:
“I did for you and the boys and because love should teach you joy and not the imitation that your mommy and daddy tried to show you” I see a lot of imitation, loneliness, and as Brian likes to point out , mutual dependency built on confidence in the current system. Carenters argument is really an adaptation to mutual dependency established by marriage vows(promises), which she feels is scary. I am right there on the scary part. We wouldn’t have the argument without the dependency.
Maybe there are ways that there is less imitation and no big problems moving on if we change the predispostion to negativity about anything but a nuclear monogamous household and don’t teach our kids it.
Like you said we are wired differently than we think does what we are doing really respect that or are we respecting current family dynamic religion and happier if we do because we are stupid. I know I am can’t handle anything different either but admit it could be stupidity at play too.
