I think any approach not insightfully adjusted for the kid, to some extent, is problematic. While I give some value to the saying “give me the boy until he is seven and I’ll give you the man” It isn’t going to be much of a man if in those seven years you obliterate the individual he was born as.
I have a kid who probably would thrive in that stereotypical Chinese family, one who would probably get sick and die and one who would be in between those extremes.
