I have been thinking lately that i would like some good statistics on what the odds are of being “somewhat happy” on a decisive majority of days of the year, in a long term marriage. After you factor out the divorced people and the miserable people who’ll admit it, and the somewhat miserable people who’ll admit it, and the neutral survivors in a marriage, whata re a couple’s odds of achieving even a small degree of happiness or satsifaction ina longterm relationship. I don’t know if the research has already been done, but i’m betting the odds are pretty damn low. probably less than 20%? 10%? Don’t a lot of really old married guys just look liek they’ve learned to shut the hell up, put their heads down, and keep going in the face of a wave of crap? I’m sure the women feel quite justifiably that the guy s being a nonrepsonsive jerk, and they may very well be right; my point isn’t to assign blame, just to question, is there any freaking hope? this internet exchange, while fun to follow, kind of makes me think that again there is no hope. none. . Of course, what other game is there in town except trying again and again to hook up in a meaningful way? its like an instinct, or the same delusion that keeps people throwingmoney att he lottery? We’re doomed, for the msot part, doomed I tell you. I ahve no facts to back that up, but I think the number of marriages with two truly, satsified customers whoa re somehwat happy ona majority of the days is between 10-14%, as revealed by polygraph testing on critical questions. also since another thread bemoans the construction of audis in china, and this thread plays up the virtue of foreign born wives, i wonder if there is some connection to be made regarding the outsourcing of mates for males to third world countries? Where will american women choose to import their future husbands from, since american made products are apparently in general low quality, defective, and all around lousy?
