I had almost this exact thing happen to me, one of my L/L’s were getting a divorce and wanted to sell short while I lived there. It was 2006 or 2007 and I really didn’t know what a short sale would entail, it was also a much slower market so I agreed with no caveats, I thought I’d be cool about it. What a mistake.
The only thing I asked was that I would be given at least an hour warning before a showing and my dumb ass allowed a lock box. I’d say 10% called an hour early, 70% called from the driveway and 20% just walked in, didn’t even knock.
Then the incident happened. I got in the shower without realizing that I hadn’t replaced the towels that I put in the laundry. While cursing myself for having to walk downstairs naked and wet to get a towel (single men don’t have linen closets filled with extra towels, it’s the law) so as I walk quickly to minimize the water damage, I am met in the upstairs hall by a nice couple and their middle aged male realtor. As we stand there staring at each other, all i can think to say is “how come every realtor I’ve met so far is hot chick and the one time I’ve got one upstairs and I’m naked, it’s a dude.”
I told the L/L that I’m done with this crap, they said they would not hold me to the lease and had the lock box removed so anyone who wanted to see it would have to go through me to see it on my terms. I moved out a month or two later, they sold the place, everybody is happy but everytime I see hat realtor chick I chuckle a little as to what might have been. If i ever decide to write porn screenplays, that will be my first.
You can learn from my story, tell them your husband is a nudist, refuses to wear clothes and likes to rub up against visitors (make up a syndrome name), that if they break the lease you can convince him to look for other rentals during the time of the open houses.