I earn close to $130k/yr and also have a liquid net worth in the six figures but the women I have dated have always been those that not only don’t have 2 nickels to rub together and very low to low income ($35k-50k/yr) and average looking, those were the only women I connected with for whatever reason but I did not mind there was a huge disconnect in socio-economic status, as long as they treated me well I was OK with it, maybe I am naive I don’t know…
But in this particular case with my ex, not only did she earn half my income, had no significant money in the bank, had $30,000 of car loans, student loans etc. making her net worth NEGATIVE $20k or so – it was a bit uncomfortable to me as I usually stay away from people whose net worth is in the negative if they are in their 30s. Well, I liked her enough that I thought that if I want to be with her I just have to be ready to absorb the $30k in liabilities from her side.
But that wasn’t enough for her, she still wanted her $25k fairy tale wedding, at least a $5k ring (to her I was getting off cheap as her friends had received $15k rings), wanted to honeymoon in the Maldives etc. etc. I was disturbed by this as these expectations from someone who does not have any money in the bank is just too much!
Now, in addition to the above she is being sued for fraud and could possibly have an additional $70-100k of liability added.
And she wonders why I bailed on her. Do you see how absolutely irrational this woman is? LOL!